Should i get a new instructor?
Well, recently I started taking lessons. My first lesson was english, but after some thought I realized its just not for me (not right now anyways). So anyways, my first lesson was on a white tb named Trooper, I was in a english saddle (didnt fit me lol). I did some walking and a bit of trotting, but did horrible since I don't have good balance and kept leaning forward in the trot and almost fell off a few times :/. So then my 2nd lesson was western, I have experience riding western so it went a lot better. I did walk/trot/canter pretty well. Anyways heres the problem, the lesson horse im riding has a terribly rough trot, the next day after my lessons im in extreme pain. My thighs, pelvic area is very sour. When I rode english it was so bad I could barely walk (and my bedroom is in the basement... it was horrible) :(. Well, I thought it wouldnt be as bad riding western, since I have a bit more balance ability in western. Though its not bad, its still pretty painful. I also am large busted, and I wore a sports bra.. well from all the bouncing from his trot my shoulders/neck area was in extreme pain from the pulling of my bra straps. I told her I wanted to switch from english to learning western pleasure, so my mom assumed she would put me on a different horse than the first one, she did not. (PS: she has several lesson horses)
Heres the main problem, this horse is a 20yr.old PITA.... he tests his riders, and its hard to learn balance when your horse doesnt want to listen to you. My instructor tells me to stay against the barn wall, so she tells me to push my outside heel/leg into him to stay on the wall. Well... that doesnt work well on him, instead he just speeds up, then she goes "oh ya he does that sometimes"??? So instead I was using neck reining to direct him towards the wall, and she kept telling me to give him his head (stop using so much rein). Then sometimes when we were in the trot he would go into the lope on his own, so of course I keep some contact on the reins, and she kept telling me not to? It was kind of confusing. The problem with keeping him on the wall is he keeps trying to cut into the center of the ring. My last lesson I was riding in the ring, and there was another rider, whom was riding my instructors horse (she pays her to keep her in shape). So the gelding likes to get right up on other horses rumps, so she keeps saying keep my distance. Well then she goes, Trooper will kick other horses, and if you let him kick my horse your in big trouble??? I told my husband this and he was like what the heck?!?! How would it be my fault if the lesson horse kicked her horse, it would be the other riders fault for allowing the horse to get near Troopers butt. The problem is my mom is getting p.o because she feels like im paying the instructor to fix her lesson horse, who doesnt want to listen. I just started riding again after like a 2yr break, so its hard to focus on 20 things at once when im riding. Im trying to keep him in the gait he's suppose to be, while not doing much rein work, keep him away from the other horse, keep my balance, and keeping him from going to the center. Im just not sure if I should get a different instructor? She says next lesson I will be on a different horse, but she said that last time to, and I was on the same horse. I'll probably attend 1 more lesson, just in case I get a different lesson horse. But this horse is one stubborn mule, and it gets frustrating when she just blames it on me. I know you need to take control and be the boss under saddle, but I can't do that when she keeps telling me not to use so much rein direction. That's the only thing I can do to keep him against the wall :/. Then when he's in the lope he will just start speeding up (almost in to a gallop) so I lost my balance and almost fell off. I probably wouldnt mind riding this horse if I had more confidence and balance in the saddle. But the entire reason im taking lessons is because I currently lack that. I just don't know what to do, should I just suck it up and pull threw it??