Sorry, but I don't understand the "want me to ride her" part. I don't really think any horse wants to be ridden lol
I have read somewhere in the Parelli stuff that if you have a strong bond with your horse, it can show signs of actually wanting you to ride it. So that is where that statement came from!
You have no previous experience, never ridden? Then stick to the program step-by-step & understand that it's not about riding, it's about the relationship.
Level 1 - Safety! You must have the lateral flexion on her from the ground, e.g., so that you have your emergency stop astride. (Seems like it can be skipped because she hasn't thus far stepped out? Wrong!) How are you doing with that?
Good luck in learning Safety so that you can graduate to Level 2! :)
That is my goal, to build the relationship. I have ridden over the years but only socially at riding ranchs. I don't really know what I am doing. But I am an avid and fast learner. I really like the idea of Level 1 being safety and giving me the skills to know what to do to be safe for both of us.
Please bring an experienced horse person in to help you with this horse before you're posting topics about this horse charging you when you try to enter her stall or worse.
I have contacted a Parelli instructor about a course and private tuition. I am going to get some over to help me, hopefully this weekend or next week.
People are not trying to scare you about your horse, but they do make a good point.
That is OK, they won't scare me. I want realistic advice. I know some of it will be conflicting, I appreciate all feedback and will learn from it.
I think if you cannot move the horse around on the ground via body language and a leadline, then you wouldn't want to get on their back. Might not take much to get to that place, so don't despair.
I can walk her on a lead line well, she stops and turns fine. She walks fine with a saddle on as well. I am doing the Friendly game with her and can touch her all over. I am can push her head down by applying pressure and releasing when she moves. So we are getting thier. No despair yet!
It is just great to get advice and pointers. This is why I am questioning whether I ride her yet. No point getting on her if she isn't going to go anywhere. I figured if I work with her on the ground, then we bond and learn stuff and she will respond to me better, when I do get on.
So if she isn't seeing a good reason to go forward under saddle, then something big is missing on the ground.
Great advice, I will always remember that one.
Sorry Green Trea Frog, I didn't mean to scare you. I realize my above post reads a bit harsh.
Not at all. I am not overly sensitive, I have been around many forums for many years! I appreciate the feedback and look for the message in the words, not the tone.
You say this horse is 14. I assume in all that time, she has been trained under saddle since most horses stop racing by age 5 or 6. Do you know what her former training has been? A good snapshot on what she already knows will give quick insights into whether her behavior is due to confusion or just being stubborn. The solution to both is firm, consistent communication.
My Aunty got her at 5 and had her for 6 years. She was much more high spirited then. She did Parelli stuff with her, not sure how far, and she used to ride her a fair bit.
At 11yo Elly went to my cousins 225 acres where she got a lot less attention but still some riding from my cousin and her step-daughters. She did say her husband (who has exp with horses) used to ride her first to calm her down.
3 years later, at 14yo, she comes to me. So I am starting from the ground myself! And want to do it right with her.
Originally Posted by kywalkinghorse2010 View Post
I have to disagree about bonding with your horse. If there's no bond there, there's no trust. If you have no trust, your horse will act up on you and you will likely get hurt.
This is my way of thinking too. Given I am not an experienced horsewoman, yet, I think the bond I develop with her will help both of us. I understand though she is an instinct, herd animal. I need to learn how to manage and work with her.