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        11-17-2009, 08:55 PM
    Green Broke
    I would play by her rules (you really have no other choice, after all) and use this as an opportunity to demonstrate how responsible you are while riding. If you demonstrate a good amount of sense and responsibility, she may very well be willing to renegotiate the rules.
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        11-19-2009, 02:01 AM
    If your Mom has agreed to let your friend board at your place, she may feel extra responsibility to the safety of your friend.

    I know when my kids have friends over to play (just to play, no horses or potential horse accidents involved), I always feel like I need to be extra vigilant around their friends, since if anything happens I'll be responsible and will have to explain it to their parents.

    Also, she may be worried about two legged snakes hassling two young girls if she is not there to watch out for you.
        11-19-2009, 02:18 AM
    Originally Posted by equiniphile    
    right now, I have to wait for my mom to be ready and make sure she has no plans and such. And that means I barely get to ride. I'm getting about 1 ride every 1 or 2 weeks now because she's busy with one thing or another.
    Does your Mom need to be present for you to ride on your own property? Rather than pushing your Mom on the trail riding issue, maybe you could ride every day at home. At least that way you'd get more riding in.
        11-19-2009, 03:33 PM
    Originally Posted by AlmostThere    
    Also, she may be worried about two legged snakes hassling two young girls if she is not there to watch out for you.
    Though that's not nearly so much of a worry when the young girls are on top of half a ton of animal that can bite, kick, and run real fast
        11-19-2009, 10:49 PM
    Originally Posted by AlmostThere    
    Also, she may be worried about two legged snakes hassling two young girls if she is not there to watch out for you.
    Originally Posted by jamesqf    
    Though that's not nearly so much of a worry when the young girls are on top of half a ton of animal that can bite, kick, and run real fast
    True, I did think about that.

    But, being the paranoid Mom that I am, I guess I could imagine someone pretending to be official and stopping the girls on some false pretense, then after getting them off the horses......

    I was just trying to throw out another possible reason the Mom of the OP might not want the girls to go out alone. It's generally accepted (though I'm not sure how true it really is) that things are not as safe today as they were 25 years or more ago.
        11-19-2009, 11:06 PM
    Originally Posted by kevinshorses    
    I fail to see what your mother could do but pick up the pieces if something happened but the fact is that she pays the bills and what she says goes.
    Originally Posted by SuperStarsSugar    
    This is 100% true. I'd also like to add that she probably feels that her supervision will prevent accidents (unlikely). I know my mom felt like that when I was 13. She probably still does. The trick is to convince her that this is not true, and that having a riding companion, a helmet, and cell phone is the next best thing.
    The Mom also might want to be there so she can know there are pieces that need to be picked up. It may be that she doesn't think she'll keep the girls safe, but would worry that she would not be in a position to help them if something bad did happen.

    Two girls together with cell phones definitely sounds safer to me than one girl out on her own. Probably even after a bad accident one of the two would be in good enough shape to call for help.

    For the OP, no one's opinion really matters besides her Mother's opinion, since the OP is a minor. However, if it were my 13 year old daughter, I'd let her ride with her friend. Assuming certain conditions were met.

    Both girls have working cells, they are warned to stay on their horses and get away if approached by strangers, the friend proved to be a competent rider, and the parents of the friend were okay with her going.
        11-25-2009, 05:24 PM
    Thanks for the input, guys =)
        11-25-2009, 06:58 PM
    I'd go by your mums rules and negociate with her over time.

    I'm 19, and I still follow my grandmothers rules when I go riding because the more I follow her rules, the less she worries and the further away I get to ride as the time passes. I remember when I started riding with my best friend 'seriously' as in almost daily... We were about your age.

    At first, we had to prove to my uncle that we could ride... and we were confined to his SMALL yard, not able to go any faster than a trot. Finally, we were allowed to ride to another friends house about a mile away and back, and we did that for a few months, never going any further. When our horses ran away with us, and my family saw that we were ok and could handle them, we were allowed to ride a few miles further, though my family called our neighbors and friends and asked them ot keep an eye out for us and my uncles would come and hunt us down every hour we were gone to make sure we were safe.

    My friend and I asked fairly often to be allowed to ride further, and were granted it because my family saw that we were ok. We were allowed to ride to the highway, but not cross it or ride on it.

    My friend got a job helping a man who owned horses... I was allowed to ride to his house and ride back on his trails, which added roughly 20 miles of trails to where we rode, and, through me, my friend was allowed to go that far.

    My friend moved. 3 miles away, across the highway. Through her, I was allowed to suddenly ride across the highway and sometimes on the highway in order to get to her new house, where she now has about 200 acres of trails to ride on, plus all these other roads that add on about 10-15 more miles of riding area.

    I met another friend who owned horses. Through that friend, I was allowed to ride to her house and further, gaining about 15 more miles of trails and roads to ride on. Through me, my new friend gained all the areas I ride on regularly.

    Base point,once my family realized that I was going to be ok, I was allowed to ride further and further away... and now, at nineteen, I'm content with the area I have to ride... I ride through mountains, all these trails, huge lakes, along the road, miles and miles away from the house.

    Maybe your mum just needs to go with you a few times and watch yall, see how careful and stuff you guys are, and then you can make a compromise.
        11-25-2009, 10:44 PM
    Green Broke
    I see everyones points here. I can't do alot of serious riding at home with my parents not there. I would say to talk to her about a riding schedual, and hold her acountable for it, and then as others have said, let her follow for a bit and see if she lets up
        11-25-2009, 11:36 PM
    When I was young 15.I rode by myself a lot...But back then we did not lock the house up before we went to bed...
    Folks have gotten so much meaner since then,1971.
    It is not you & Sam that your mom is worried about, it is the other folks.
    And the dangers on the trail...And is it not also hunting season ??? It is here..
    And above all...Mom is the boss ! ! ! When you are the mom, you get to be the boss of your children...
    That was what my mom said.....She was right ! ! !
    Now I tell my son,"When you get to be the dad,you can be the boss of your children" ! !
    I am older now & my mom still bosses me around,when I visit her house..LOL

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