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post #1 of 18 Old 05-30-2009, 09:45 PM Thread Starter
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Sick Of being a wimp

Well, my riding is going ok, but yesterday my mum asked my riding instructor how I was going.
She said it was ok, but I was stressing out over any little thing what happened(the horses ears flicking back, horse moving to fast, horse stopping etc) and because of that she has only being able to put me on the safe little ponies and horses.
She has suggested that I come and help after school every now and then with feeding and get used to horses more ofter.
I am sick of being a wimp. Yesterday I was on a pony called Prince and I really wanted to do some trotting but he was sore from being ridden in a horse show the day before and only trotted for about 5 metres before he gave up. I was so annoyed as I really want to trott for once. I am so sick of getting nervous. Everyone else is great. A girl about 4 years younger than me is riding an arabian named Fox and she's doing better than me...
Any tips on the encouragment. My nervousness usually happens when the horse does someunexpected or when he goes a little too fast...

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post #2 of 18 Old 05-30-2009, 10:26 PM
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Dont rush yourself into doing something your scared of just yet. Its completely normal to feel the way you do, about being scared if the horse speeds up, or stops, or doesnt go at all. I think that helping out at the barn would help you alot as far as connecting with the other horses, and seeing that they are really not as scary as they seem to be at times. Just because the younger kids around you are trotting, or cantering, does not mean that your behind.

Some kids just pick things up quicker, or have there own horse, so they get to ride everyday. (and some of us dont have that luxury. )

I had rode for about 2 years before i got the nerve to canter for the first time. It was and always will be frusturating when you see people younger then you riding 'more advanced' i guess you could say.

But dont put yourself down because of that!!!! Just because you ride the ponies, or the smaller horses doesnt mean anything. If anything, it will give you better confidence in the saddle.

You'll be as good as the other kids in no time. Just relax, and dont be on the edge of year seat over every little thing that happeneds. I know its easier said then done, but with a little confidence and trust of your horse, im sure you'll get it!!

I have no idea if this helped or not. but dont put yourself down! =(
you'll get it!

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post #3 of 18 Old 05-30-2009, 11:00 PM
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Hey,
Dont worry about being nervous it happens to even the best riders, everyone has to learn at some stage. Spend alot of time on the ground with a horse that you feel comfortable with, this will give you more confidence when your in the saddle.

All my students get nervous when the horse does something they arnt use to. What i tell them is take a deep breath and relax because your up there to have fun.

Dont compare yourself to other riders, just take your own time to get comfortable with your horse
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post #4 of 18 Old 05-30-2009, 11:07 PM
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You probably don't relize this but u have all the courage u need all you need to do is push the horse along and keep a calm assertive state of mind and you'll be great!
Trust me its not as easy as it sounds. I had alot of trouble with riding outside of a pen. I always felt that if the horse was loping it would suddenly get out of control, and try to run home, leaving me behind. Since I've been training horses and had to work on that I really changed my mind. I learned that the horse knows all you're cues and being outside the pen is hard for them and if you're nervous you're just making it even harder. If I feel like my horse is getting out of control I usually just make a small circle and try again. I have learned that if you keep calm and learn that timing is key then you can do anything, and get through those bumps in the road.
Just remember to keep you're chin up, if the horse trips that not because its getting out of control it just happens, everyone trips and you should be riding a horse that can pick its self up.
When the horse is going too fast just make a small circle and try again.
I've been trying to build my bf's confidence on the ground first. When he's around I get him to come into the pen and pet the horse and learn stuff about the horse, or tack. Sometimes I'll get him to cool a horse out for me, just picking ones that'll walk really nice for him. Its going good and he has alot of confidence on the ground. Good luck and remember if you take a step back always take too steps forward, or u'll never get to ride the other horses. I'd also talk to you're coach and let them know that you're ready. Its always good for them to know what state of mind ur in.
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post #5 of 18 Old 05-31-2009, 05:06 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks for all the help. I also really don't like being left behind. Yesterday at horse riding everyone was trotting but me because I was on a pony what was too sore and tired to trott. I really really wanted to trott for once, but he wouldn't go :(

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post #6 of 18 Old 05-31-2009, 06:22 AM
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Trust me its not as easy as it sounds. I had alot of trouble with riding outside of a pen. I always felt that if the horse was loping it would suddenly get out of control, and try to run home, leaving me behind. Since I've been training horses and had to work on that I really changed my mind. I learned that the horse knows all you're cues and being outside the pen is hard for them and if you're nervous you're just making it even harder. If I feel like my horse is getting out of control I usually just make a small circle and try again. I have learned that if you keep calm and learn that timing is key then you can do anything, and get through those bumps in the road.
I've found this to be very true (and good advice) for less experienced riders.
We always want (and expect) our horse to trust us, and we must trust our horse, too. Keep in mind that the horse is a social creature and it has accepted having a rider, not been forced to have one. It is a true, willing, partnership between horse and rider.
As mentioned, if you think things are getting out of control, do a circle or stop, have your horse take a couple steps back...take a deep breath, give your horse a rub on the neck, and continue when you're ready.
As with working young horses, time in the saddle is key. The more you ride, the more relaxed you will be.
Relax, enjoy, have fun, and good luck, and don't worry about anyone else.

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post #7 of 18 Old 06-02-2009, 10:37 PM
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I find the best way to build confidence is to empower yourself. I was 40 years old before I got my first horse. I had been taking lessons for years and leased a few, but had never been outside of a ring. The first few times in open fields, I was terrified that my horse would take off and toss me in the grass. I did a lot of research and found the answer was the one rein stop. It's an emergency move to keep a horse from bolting. I practiced it in the ring at the walk, then trot and canter, and then gave it a try in open fields. One day, for no apparent reason, the fear disappered and I've been having a blast ever since. I can now ride out any spook and pull up my horse within a few big strides without getting scared out of my mind. It's incredibly powerful to know you have the tools to deal with a situation and replaces the fear with action. Just go at your own speed. One day you'll wake up and know you're ready for the next step.
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post #8 of 18 Old 06-03-2009, 02:52 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks for all the help :) I really appreciate it...

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post #9 of 18 Old 06-03-2009, 06:46 AM
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I am 41 and have ridden since I was 5. My confidence and nervs have gone from bold cowgirl (when I was 15) to oh help me now get me off (38 mom of two). You might think about a different trainer. I good trainer makes you feel confident not wimpy. Being with the horses from the ground would help. They are kind gentle animals. Find a good horse and try a slow jog (sitting trot). I own 4 horses and 3 make me feel like a bold cowgirl and 1 makes me feel like a scared kid on their first ride!!! Find a trainer whose judgement you trust completely.
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post #10 of 18 Old 06-03-2009, 07:36 AM
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This is so normal. Try not to be hard on yourself, and don't let others get to you. You'll run into a lot of pushy people in the horse world. You take it as slow as you want. Horses aren't going anywhere. If you rush yourself any faster than you want to go just to please others, you will lose confidence. I do think hanging out with the horses is a really good idea. The connection and understanding is important.
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