Wendy, there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a break for a while. Of course, I want to jump up and say " No, don't give up. Just face your fear and get back on." However, I know that sometimes it isn't that easy. You just take your time and that confidence will come back. That first time you force yourself back into the saddle, the butterflies will be on speed and you will feel like you are about to puke but it will get easier with each ride. Don't force yourself faster than you are willing to go though. Your trainer seems to have a good plan of attack. For right now, just focus on your daughter and help her in any way that you can. You will build the urge back up sooner than you might think. I would also wait on buying a horse for a while and just stick with some of the old schoolmasters who have been everywhere and done everything. Whatever you decide to do though (even if it is to stay a horse show mom), you have our support. Just take a deep breath and take some time. It will get better.