One of my best friend cousin has a horse with a old injury shoulder but sound to ride. So my best friend and her cousin were talking about her learning how to ride on her but I told my best friend that I didn't think that it was a good idea since
A) The horse is still green
B) The cousin told me that she will rear with new rider
C) I rode the horse before and she not a fun ride i had to reteach her things like turn and and bending and a bit of troting
D) The cousin is sacred to jog or lope her
E) She could just as easily ride one of the schoolmaster at the barn
F) She only gets work maybe once every 5 months
Now both my new trainer and the cousin is mad because I told my friend what I really thought about the horse.
Did I over step the line?
My friend told me she wouldn't ride the horse but was it right to tell her what i think?
If your opinion was asked and you gave it, then no, you didn't cross the line. However, if you gave unsolicited advice regarding the horse's suitability for beginners, I could understand where some people's feathers would get ruffled. No one wants to be told that their horse isn't everything they think it is, especially if they're viewing the horse through rose-colored glasses.
My friend ask me what i thought of the idea i said it wasn't a good idea. She ask why so i told her. This was all over text so the cousin looked though her phone in order to see it.
Or she told her cousin that you said it would be a bad idea. I have a feeling your friend didn't tell her cousin the whole story or somehow made it sound like you were making mean remarks about the horse...or that you gave unsolicited advice.
I would talk to your trainer, but not worry about the cousin. You know what was said and have the texts to prove it.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. You gave your opinion, they responded, that's that. It's not your horse, so you really don't have much business worrying about it.
I am more worry that she is going to put a new rider on her mare and she is going to hurt someone. I mean I stop my friend but what if she put someone else on her?
I agree, I have a lot of people at my agistment where they just aren't doing what is exactly needed of them but it is not my place to say anything unless asked and I understand you were asked but its all up to choice if you have given her your opinion and she still gets on whatever happens is not your problem any more.
Sometimes people ask for an opinion when all they really want is for you to agree with them. But you're always better off being honest when it concerns a horse and a beginner rider, because that's a really dangerous situation. Good for you for telling the truth and for giving very valid reasons for your opinion. Try not to get pulled into the drama. It never ends well.
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