Trigger123: My head is spinning from all your statements. You don't make any sense. Here's all the different things you've said that are contradictory:
he gets very excited and I fall off
He has just come back from training
I am used to him and he is actually very quiet!
Okay, I don't get this because he just came back from training, and he hasn't been home very long from the sounds of it. So therefore, you are not
used to him.
And right off the back you say he gets excited, but then you say he is quiet. Which is it? It can't be both.
I do have a good seat!
No you don't. Your very first post said you fall off when your horse gets excited.
I don't get nervous when it hapens I just try to stop him! I wouldn't mind Him bolting and I would stop him but where I was riding him was on uneven ground and there was a big pole sticking out of the ground!
What does uneven ground and a pole have to do with you falling off and him bolting? You should be able to stop your horse no matter where you are. Yes, the trainer trained him, but the trainer didn't train you. Training doesn't do any good unless you train both the horse and the rider
I don't need any more lessons
I'm sorry my dear, but yes you do need more lessons.
I wouldn't say he 'gets away with it' because when he gets like that I take him into the yard and ride him around there for a little while
So he gets excited. You take 5 minutes to get off of him, or take him to the yard. Then get back on and "school" him.
That's doesn't work. You ARE teaching him that he can get away with what he wants.
You have 3 seconds
to school a horse after their action. Or else they don't connect the punishment and don't learn squat.
He's still young yet..
Exactly!!! The old saying goes: Green + Green = Black & Blue
A green horse like yours being ridden by a green rider like you, is going to result with one or both of you getting hurt.
I am eperienced enough to deal with this
From the sounds of it, you don't know how to deal with this horse. Why would you come on here asking for help if you claim to know what you are doing?
my riding has been trashed too many times!
You're only 13. You've only had lessons for about 5 years. Of course your riding is not going to be perfect! You are learning and there is nothing wrong with learning.
But you have to be honest with yourself and with others of your true riding ability. And you are not capable and not qualified to ride a green-broke 3-year-old colt.
He doesn't have any pain I think it is just excitement!
Are you a vet?
Has he been examined by a vet? Then you can't just assume he is fine, especially when he was ridden at such an extremely young age.
Plus the fact that some 3-year-old are not mentally ready to be ridden yet. They are all different. Some can take it; some lose their marbles when they are ridden too soon before they mentally mature.
No, I'm not having too much fun.
Then PLEASE get a trainer to work with you AND your horse.
I don't think I know it all,
But..... you said that:
--you don't need lessons
--you have a good seat
--the horse is already "trained"
Sounds like you know it all.
I just doubt myself as a rider.
So again: Why do you think you don't need lessons? This is exactly why YOU DO!
I tried circling him and pulling him back but he gets a bit excited
I'm going to sound like a broken record here, but this is why you need lessons. You don't know how to handle this green 3-year-old.
Remember: green + green = black & blue
Your lack of knowledge of what to do with him is only going to make him frustrated and irritated, and create bad habits. It is not a bad thing that you don't know what to do with him, because as I said you are still very much learning about horses and everyone was where you were at one point or another. But don't fool yourself into thinking you and horse can "grow up together" because that's how people get hurt and horses get spoiled rotten.
my uncle's friend said he would ride him around and get the energy out of him!!
That doesn't exactly work. Unless he plans on riding for hours on end, you aren't going to take all the energy out of a horse.
People incorrectly think that's what lunging does: Takes all their energy so they behave.
Instead, lunging should be used as a tool to get the horse to focus on your and respect you.
And he doesn't need a 'more experienced rider'. Everyone goes through some difficulties so there's no need to get a 'better horse'. Trigger is just absolutely perfect! Nobody gets anywhere by giving up.
Aaaaaaaand now we are back to you being a know-it-all again
You do not know what you are doing. At least admit it to yourself, if not to us.
Your horse needs a more experienced rider.
Yes, everyone goes through difficulties but it is downright STUPID and DANGEROUS to pair an unexperienced 13-year-old rider with an unexperienced 3-year-old colt. I'm very surprised your mother is allowing this, although she may not realize the gravity of the situation.
He doesn't buck me off or hurt me on purpose (or at all really!!)
Wait ..... you said earlier that he is quiet? Now he's a bucker??
Your horse doesn't care about you.
He will choose a bucket of grain over you.
He will buck you off and leave you lying in the field with broken ribs.
He will choose his horse buddies over you.
He does not think about you during the day or wonder when you will come to visit.
He. Is. A. Horse.
You are inexperienced and you do not know how to deal with 3-year-old tantrums. You are going to continue to create bad habits and he is going to continue to do what he wants, because you don't know how to stop him.
I mean I posted her to SEE what people had to say!!
Why on earth would you give a hoot as to what we had to say? After all, you aren't taking anyone's advice and are just ignoring everything.
And I don't have "very little experience"!
5 years of riding IS
very little experience
That would be like saying a 5th grader in school was ready to go into the adult workforce because they have lots of experience.
Again, everyone has to start someone and it is nothing to be ashamed of if you only have 5 years of riding under your belt. But be honest to yourself and realize that that is not enough.
Do you think I might need some other thing to control him?
If you cannot control him with the bridle, and your seat/legs/body, no "contraption" you strap on him is going to help.
I have the jump in the field
Exactly how big is this jump? Jumping is very strenuous on young joints and I would NOT be jumping a 3-year-old.
I felt him getting faster so I tried to pull him back a bit and then he went into trot and I tried to stop him and he went for a gallop!
Get some lessons with your horse, for the last time. You have zero control over him.
What if he runs through a fence?
Or runs onto a highway into oncoming traffic?
What if you had landed on your neck instead of your feet? You and this horse are a wreck waiting to happen. Get some lessons and work with your trainer, and do not ride this horse unless you are supervised by a trainer.