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post #71 of 77 Old 12-27-2012, 03:49 PM
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I vote for Charlie, too-he sounds like a grand horse for you. I do hope you can talk to that other lady, too, & clue her in to what may be happenning. Maybe she could switch barns also-it's so nice to have friends around. I'll bet you can find another instructor to coach you & Charlie & it might even be cheaper! Hope you are feeling better about things now that you see what the problem was.
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post #72 of 77 Old 01-03-2013, 01:12 PM Thread Starter
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Is there a way to put "Update" in the thread title? I couldn't figure it out.

anyway, I wanted to update. My heart is broken. Charlie was sold over Christmas. A young girl who rides at the barn bought him. I had no idea that anyone was even looking at him. I totally understand that's how it goes. First with the money gets him. I wasn't ready to buy just yet but I was going to make the exception for him. I was preparing to get a run-in shed for my property and hopefully bring him home this month.
I was so mad at myself for not getting him sooner but I didn't want to make the mistake of buying too soon. But waiting wasn't a good idea either. Ugh. I'm heartbroken over it.

Well, I lost Charlie and I'm done with the barn. I have a few possibilities of barns in my area. One is a little further than this one but I think it will work. Another option is there is a wonderful trainer in my area who goes to your house so when I do finally get a horse, I can have her giving me lessons here.

It was so, so awkward telling my trainer that I wasn't coming back. I know I should have explained exactly why but I knew that I'd get nothing but excuses. So I just said that I was looking for a barn with a greater focus on English riding and one that had an indoor arena so I could ride all year and not have to skip multiple lessons because the ring is muddy. And really that is part of the reason I'm not happy there. She didn't seem happy but I think she's used to people coming and going at this point.

Just wanted to update you all. Thank you SO much for all of your advice. I really needed to hear it. I don't know that I would have made the decision on my own.
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post #73 of 77 Old 01-03-2013, 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Heelsdown View Post

anyway, I wanted to update. My heart is broken. Charlie was sold over Christmas.


Well, I lost Charlie and I'm done with the barn.
I'm so sorry that Charlie was sold. Yes, that's how it goes, first money and all that BUT, if your trainer knew or the BO knew that you were interested IMO, they should have given you a head's up so that you could offer higher if you wished.

Things happen for a reason and I suspect, that your horse is still out there waiting for you. My best recommendation would be, go find a good barn with a solid lesson program and school horses, and start taking lessons from them and see how fast you progress. Continue making your plans for the shelter and fence and get that accomplished, so when the right horse presents himself, you will feel free to move.

Main thing though, get back in a lesson program right away and start making progress and give yourself that affirmation.
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post #74 of 77 Old 01-03-2013, 04:01 PM
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Thanks for the update
I think Dreamcatcher has pretty much said it all so I'll just wish you good luck at the new barn and hopefully your right horse will come along - get your property sorted and do all the research
You've made the right decision IMO
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post #75 of 77 Old 01-03-2013, 05:20 PM
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Oh! I'm very sorry to hear that about Charlie, Heelsdown! I, too, agree with Deamcatcher on everything she wrote in her post above, and believe everything happens for a reason (I know that is trite and cliche, but very true generally, nonetheless).

Your "dream-horse" is still out there...perhaps you'll find him as a result of changing barns and it will all make excellent sense in the end!

So glad you are moving on...I can feel your relief for that aspect of the situation in your post. I wish you wonderful luck and send out huge prayers for finding the best barn to suit your needs!

Take care, and I can't wait until you update us again about the new place and circumstances....Yeay!!

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post #76 of 77 Old 01-05-2013, 08:52 PM
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Heelsdown - I know I am late to this post but wanted to say I am glad you left that barn. It sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen and I suspect they don't have the best insurance if they let people smoke around the barn (or will lose it when the ins company finds out). I see a lot of posters here say that $50 is too much for group lessons - I'm not sure where you are in VA but that is actually one of the lower prices for the N VA area based on the research I have been doing in looking for some basic lessons for myself. Most places up here run $50-85 for one hour group. There are a few places that have private lessons for about the $70 and up range but those are for 30-45 minute lessons and some of them don't teach you how to tack up (the horse is ready when you there). If you are in S VA then I would think that the prices should be lower than $50 and hour but not by much (based on FFX and Loudoun Counties being among the richest in the nation). I hope that you eventually find the right horse and barn for you and continue with your riding. I am 37 and just starting to look into horseback riding since my 4 year old took it up a few months ago.
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Thank you so much all of you! I'm so glad I could come here to vent. I don't want to dump all of this on my husband. Poor guy hears enough about horses, lol.

I had been paying $75 at the previous hunter barn when I lived in Connecticut. So when I moved here I thought that $50 was a good price. Initially she was doing my lesson alone. Then a few lessons in she put me with the group. I'd gladly pay $50 for a lesson again, even more, if it means getting a good lesson. The one barn I'm looking at is $45 per lesson. It seems to be a common price around here for hunter barns.

I really hope Charlie got a wonderful home and he's appreciated for the wonderful horse he is. I feel like I lost a pet. I know that's happened to so many people though. Your heart horse is sold from under you. And years later you still think about them. I think that's how it will be with him.

Back2horseback, I am relieved to be gone! Off to newer and better.
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