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        08-28-2011, 03:48 AM
    UGH! Nerves!

    So I'm about to go for a ride... but I'm that nervous, I tell you! Monty's a good boy and will look after me but since my accident a couple of months ago I haven't been able to just get on and ride without having to walk for like 10 minutes to settle MYSELF down!

    Over it! Any suggestions? At the moment I'm thinking about going to a sports psychologist but that costs money (sometimes lots of it) and I'm not sure how I'd be able to fit it in with work. Are there any techniques that my fellow nervous nellies use that really work well? I know that the most effective long-term fix is to RIDE but I just hate being this nervous and Monty picks up on it (being part-Arab he is VERY sensitive), plus when I'm nervous I'm more likely to get mad at my horse, and we all know that anger has no place in riding. I don't want to turn this into a vicious circle of me being nervous, him sensing it and acting up, and me getting more nervous because of it.

    I'll get over it, I'm sure, and it's not crippling nerves (I still canter and jump and all that) but still, I hate feeling this way. It's just a normal ride, for goodness' sake! Used to be I only got nervous like this before a competition. It's frustrating :[
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        08-28-2011, 10:43 AM
    My last experience with nerves was when the trainer down the road needed a woman to ride a mare that kept attacking other women..... He asked I said yes. This mare would bite, follow women with her butt or even try to strike with her front legs! So I get there & he says theres the saddle get to it.... I was shaking with nerves! But I breathed in through my nose out through my mouth & owned them.... said out loud I was nervous.... well loud enough for me & the mare to hear, lol. She thought about biting once & was otherwise an angel.
    Then he told me to take her out to the pasture to ride her & told the 3clients that were there to come see if she was going to rodeo me off! WHAT?! So there go my nerves again! But I breathed again, owned them again, and rode her with very little issue. She wasnt happy & would paw the ground, stomp, & tried to throw her head down once for a buck but I would allow it & she decided it wasnt worth the fight.

    So I dismount after everyone left & asked about the different behaviors.... he said she does the same thing with him.... ok yeah! 2 weeks later she broke in half with him riding.... it was awesome to watch! Took 3 min to get her back under control and then she was perfect again, lol!
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        08-29-2011, 07:25 AM
    I actually did the breathing thing yesterday and it worked great. And then got on today, and he was such an angel yesterday that I was absolutely fine, expecting him to be perfect. And he was.

    This horse is incredible. He can be perfect one day and then a total skitzo the next. Arabs!
        08-29-2011, 09:00 AM
    Yeah! So glad it helped you!!! Yeah, I understand the whole skitzo thing, lol!
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        08-29-2011, 10:52 AM
    Bwahaha, it's what I hate about Arabs (and hence why I only have part-breds). They're so sensitive and unpredictable. I love their minds though, so smart and loyal. This coming from the mad person who has an 8 month old part-Arab filly... LOL I think I've lost my mind. I hate mares!
        08-29-2011, 11:10 AM
    You have most certainly lost your mind then!!! Lmbo!! I know Im crazy to have a mare & a filly but I love every minute of it! My hubby not so much.... lol!
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        08-29-2011, 11:57 AM
    Ahahahaha yeah. Satin's colour is basically the only reason I bought her, what with her being a filly... I dreamed of owning a buckskin for years lol, I'd have bought her as a colt or gelding no matter her colour, but her being a filly, I needed a little extra kick in the right direction. She is amazing though, let's just hope she isn't too mare-ish when the hormones kick in!
        08-29-2011, 01:16 PM
    Glad its getting easier for you.
        08-30-2011, 10:50 AM
    Thanks :) I'll be nervous again tomorrow, but I plan to ride in the round pen with Mum in the middle to shout at me about my upper body (it slackens, my shoulders come forward, doesn't help Monty that's for sure!) so I should be ok. He won't bolt on me in the round pen because it's too small and the footing is kind of heavy so it's all too much effort for him - we don't canter in there but at walk/trot it is VERY useful.
        09-01-2011, 08:57 PM
    Bolting issues are training issues.. ground work and establishing more respect will change that. When your horse becomes a prince of manners, then try lunging him. Then ask someone to lunge you on him. It will help you a lot, having someone there to back you up :)

    But it's all about establishing that when you say stop, they stop. When you tell them go, they go. Otherwise you're just pulling and he's spooking sideways or backing up or bucking or rearing :/

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