Arthur's one hangup is this: My family kept him and a few other riding horses at our house for a long time. 15 ish years. Then my mom got a divorce, and a few years later, when I was 6, we had to lease the two horses we still had (the others had passed of old age over time), Arthur and a Missouri Fox Trotter named Beau who were best friends, to a couple with open spots in their barn an hour away while my mom got her life back in order from the divorce. They paid for the vet, farrier, feed, bedding, etc, and rode them whenever they wanted. I got to see them only about 5 times during those 2 years. Then we were able to move Arthur (Beau had foundered) to my mom's friends barn, which was 5 minutes away from our house. Her friend had a horse that needed a friend, as his companion had recently died. I was 8 years old, so I took care of Arthur every day, rode often, etc. 2 years later, my mom's friend called us to tell us that she was selling her horse, and Arthur needed to be moved. I had an idea....I got our barn and pastures ready, working for months. By the time my mom's friend's horse was sold, Arthur was back on my property. I was overjoyed. We bought Lulu, a miniature horse mare, to keep him company. Arthur hated her. They annoyed the crap out of each other for a full year. However, when we bought a Paint Clydesdale gelding and a Welsh stallion, Arthur, being dominant, took to herding Lulu around incessantly. I couldn't ride Arthur now without ponying Lulu. It got really annoying, and has been going on for 2 years. I cannot ride Arthur anywhere without Lulu coming with us. He freaks, and does not cooperate. I try to assert myself and tell him who's boss by circling him in the back pastures. I make him walk away from the barn where Lulu is, and I have to kick him the whole way. He fights me the whole time. However, on the stretch of the circle heading in the direction of the barn, I have to keep him on such a tight rein. He just won't slow down. It is sooo annoying. He used to hate Lulu, but ever since we've had the stallion and the other gelding, he drives me insane. HAS to be near her. I can't groom him in cross ties without Lulu being there in the barn aisleway with him. How the heck can I stop this?? I obviously can't have her running behind us in the show ring at the fair! I know him. He won't perform if Lulu isn't there. And Lulu is not the best horse I've ever known. She bucks at Arthur the whole time we canter in the back fields, which gets Arthur going. If Lulu feels like hanging back on the ride, Arthur will wait for her and I can't get him to go forward!! Should I use spurs?? A crop?? I don't want to hurt him. Sorry for the really long explanation....Here's a video of us riding. You can see how Arthur's fine with Lulu following us, but when she slows down, he halts and waits. And I sit there kicking like a maniac trying to get him to move.
Do you think he'll stop this behavior if I sell the other gelding and the stallion? I need to sell them anyway to make room for my friend, who will hopefully be buying and boarding a horse on my property soon.