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post #1 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 09:53 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy :( please help

Hey every1. Ok, Ive got 2 friends who would like to start riding, so my mom told their parents about the yard I ride at, because in my area, it is cheaper than most yards, but still, VERY good. So now my friends are going to ride there.

I know this sounds selfish, which is why I want your advice, but I kind of dont want them to. Dont get me wrong, my friends are awsome, but like, horse riding has always been my thing. And the stable and all the horses are my little world, where I can leave the stress of EVERYTHING at the gate. And 1 of my friends can get quite mean and snobby, which might ruin the atmosphere. I really would like them to start riding just, not where I go.

Does that make sense? Please help me...

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post #2 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 09:58 AM
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You could ride on different days than them, and that way you could still have your time at the barn.

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post #3 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 10:15 AM
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They are just starting out so they will probably look up to you for advice. This will probably help the "snooby" one...otherwise, just find out what days they want to ride and change yours to be different.

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post #4 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 09:12 PM
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Ooh, tough one. I can totally understand you wanting your sancuary to yourself. Nothing wrong with that. Maybe you can tell your mom your concerns so she stops talking up that barn to your friend's parents? If they're already going there, the only thing you can do is go at a different time or day.
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post #5 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 09:16 PM
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i knwo how you feel, i like to keep my barn owrld and school friends apart too... like everyone else said, just ride a different times... you could also talk to your mum, that would probably help, and she would probably understand! if theyre total beginners, who knows...what if they dont like it and quite? it might only last a little while!

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post #6 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 10:00 PM
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i felt the same when a friend wanted to take lessons at my barn. the way i handled it was, i didnt once say anything like "im looking forward to you coming to the barn" i just talked like it wasnt happening to she'd kinda get the vibes i didnt want it, without saying it, and she got the message after a while and started somewhere else. we are still great friends, it didnt change that at all.
i think its fine to want your barn to stay yours only,your right, its a place to get away from school and friend drama
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post #7 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 10:17 PM
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I understand what you mean, but it is a little selfish. Its a business, not your private farm. You can talk to them about your concerns, but if they want to ride there you cant really stop them.
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post #8 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 11:11 PM
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I have to agree with sillybunny on this one...

Now, you don't have to act all excited about them going there, and who's to say they are going to be going at the same time you are anyway? But you can't really stop them from going there, and to TRY to prevent them from going there when it's not your facility IS selfish. This is the way your barn survives (via lessons, and boarding, probably).

I would be elated that my friends were actually taking interest in something I like, because often horses are NOT something most people want to try. Who knows, you may be surprised, and you may find that you become closer to these two girls because of a mutual interest.

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post #9 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 11:18 PM
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I'm with sillybunny and mom2pride on this... it does seem a little selfish. I understand you want your time to yourself though. Perhaps you can work it so you ride at a different time than them. If they're friends, I'm sure they'll understand... otherwise, give it a shot, who knows - the best times some people upon horses is with their best friends... I know I thoroughly enjoyed my lessons when I was doing it with friends :) Gave us something to talk about in school together.

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post #10 of 10 Old 11-07-2009, 11:22 PM Thread Starter
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I know it's selfish and mean of me, which is why I wanted help... Thank you all SO much, your advise will really help!!!

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