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    02-21-2012, 08:09 PM
Unsure about Instructor

So I have been getting back into riding for the past 9 months with my new instructor. I really like her training methods and how she teaches. Her style really works for me. I just started jumping and about 2 months ago I had a really hard fall where I ended up in the hospital because they thought I broke my leg. Fortunately I didn't I only pulled every single muscle in my leg and hip. Well after some PT and an ok from my doctor I started lessons back up again. I was a little nervous but I had fallen off horses before so it wasn't horribly traumatic.

My instructor on the other hand took my fall really hard. I was the first person who had fallen off under her instruction and had to be sent to the hospital. She was really nervous about me getting back on more than I was. Anyways the past few months I feel like she is really holding me back and the communication between us has kind of died. I don't really enjoy the lessons anymore and I don't get the individual attention that I once got. (There are often others riding in the arena who are her other students working horses and she spends more time telling them something than giving me my lesson) She has pushed me back to trot polls and doing a single cross rail for the past month at a trot when before I was cantering over outside lines and doing simple course work. I have tried to talk to her about it and she just brushes me off. She has been really distant and it seems she is trying to push me out of the barn. I feed horses for her in exchange for lessons and she has never had a problem with me feeding and now she is picking everything I do cleaning and feeding wise to pieces. Everyone else at the barn has seem to distance themselves away from me too.

I am at a real loss at what to do. I don't know if I should wait it out and hope everything works out or start looking for a new place.
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    02-22-2012, 12:05 AM
If you feel like she is trying to push you out I see two options: talk with her or find a new place. If she really wants you gone regardless of why it isn't in your benefit to stay...you already said she isn't giving you the attention you once got.
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    02-22-2012, 12:54 AM
Geeez that's harsh...it's like they're afraid they'll catch your fall....
    02-22-2012, 01:26 AM
She may be holding you back because your just not ready to move forward.
Why did you fall? How did it happen?

IMO, no beginner should start jumping with in the first year.
    02-22-2012, 05:20 AM
Originally Posted by sierrams1123    
IMO, no beginner should start jumping with in the first year.
I can probably get on board with that based on personal experience.

What bothers me about this whole thing is how the OP feels the instructor is just shutting her out.

If the instructor feels a refocus is needed, there should be an adult conversation about goals and how to get there based on her observation of what led to the fall.

If it were me, I'd face her up and straight up ask why is it that I am being now put on the back burner so to speak. Her answer will drive whether I remain a client or not.

IMO forcing the conversation is the best option, just leaving is the second best option. What I would not do is just keep paying money to be ignored.
    02-22-2012, 05:24 AM
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Honestly, if you yourself have no more fears, and feel you are ready to progress again- you need to tell her.

If you don't feel confident, and have any reservations going to exactly what you were doing before your accident, there is a reason as to why she is holding you back. Recovery time for us takes a while, as with horses, and she may be trying to build you up more, to steady your seat etc so next time you don't fall.

I would talk to her about how you feel, and if she doesn't listen, move elsewhere.

Good luck.

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