Originally Posted by Shalani
You should never "learn" to ride with a crop its something that comes later . Because it is an extention of your hand & and beginners unsteady hand is no place for a crop.
If I were you I would use a dressage whip to back up your leg instead of tapping her should.
Then you may be able to *kick* to stubborn habit all together lol
If you squeeze (no response) , kick ( Still nothing) then smack with the dressage whip right behind your leg your horse will soon get the hint its easier to move on the squeeze :)
That is really helpful! Thank you! And Velvets, I think that you are right, I usually don't hit her very hard at all as I don't want to be mean. But that usually means I have to tap her again harder. I'd rather just have to tap her once and be done with it. Lol And just as clarification, I don't use it as punishment, I use it to get her attention when she isn't listening. She likes to ignore you when you ask her to trot sometimes, and when it is near dinner time, she has a big problem with stopping at the gate of the arena and refusing to go anywhere.
She is a very very stubborn little mare and is always fighting to be in charge. I just want to be sure I am assertive without being mean
Thank you all for the input! It was very helpful and I will definitely put it to use. :)