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post #1 of 13 Old 05-26-2011, 09:50 PM Thread Starter
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What helps you conquer your fear?

I've been struggling with cantering on my horse. I am nearly fearless on other horses! Kelty's canter is fast and uncollected (working on it, will post video in critique section soon) and my trainer has been working with him on it. It is seeing progress, and he's not a bucker. However, when I get on him to canter, I am petrified, and I've only been doing it on the line! It's so irritating, and it really affects my posture and EVERYTHING. I am afraid of falling, afraid of the dissappointment of falling, afraid of being a crummy rider, and afraid of the affect falling would have on his training (he gets very distressed and anxious after a fall in the gait I fell off)

Anyways, it's crippling. I've been watching YouTube videos of the canter, good and bad, to try and work through the fear.

What I wanna know is: how do you cope with fear? What works for you?

Thank you horse forum!
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post #2 of 13 Old 05-26-2011, 10:02 PM
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You might find this topic helpful. ;)

Fear of Cantering

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I stopped riding for a few months in the winter and when I started again my balance was poorly and the canter was scaaaary! I just pushed away my fear and cantered. I would slow Coco down though to a lope, and each lesson I felt a little more comfortable so I would let her go faster and faster. Now she goes at a normal speed and I feel ready for some speed! :)

Take it slow, but force yourself to progress each time a little.

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I just think about the bond and trust my horse and I have.

"When Nature made the Thoroughbred, she made no mistake."
"when riding a horse we borrow freedom."
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post #5 of 13 Old 05-26-2011, 10:31 PM Thread Starter
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Islandwave: thanks I read that thread a while back. It is good to revisit it. However I am looking for more and broader information.

Hidalgo13: Kelty is not quite comfortable on the canter either, and will respond to my nerves.. (He was "barrel-race trained" by people who didn't know what they were doing, and has had a LOT of bad experiences at the canter)

Jesskater^ also the same reason I am still nervous and am looking for ways to steel myself. He feels my nerves through our bond, and is pretty sure that if herd leader is afraid, we should get the.. Out of dodge. :)

He's learning too so its hard to "trust" him since he's still working out the kinks.

I was also curious as to how other people conquer their fears when faced with racing, high jumps, their own personal fears.
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I think it is to do with your own confidence level. I ride motorcycles, or I did until 2 years ago. I was pathetic. I did track days and race schools as I wanted to be cool, but I just had too much fear and couldn't get that edge I needed.

However with horses, I have done it all my life, so I don't think of it as being the same, when it is really. At least bikes don't have their own mind.

So all in all, it is in each of ours head. We can control that, but it is not as easy said as done.
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post #7 of 13 Old 05-27-2011, 12:07 AM
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My way is..probably one of the worst/most dangerous ways, but I've found that for the few things that have scared me I end up asking my friend (same level rider I am, just different things that scare us) to race me (if I flew off at a run before and was nervous to run on that horse), or something that will make my competitive side kick into full gear and help me get over it. I can now run on any horse ridable to us at the barn and don't get scared nearly as easily. I guess I'm pretty bombproof :p
But, in your case, I would suggest asking the trainer if he/she would be able to let you canter on a finished horse that is already balanced and completely controllable. It will most likely boost your confidence and you'll gain a better seat.
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post #8 of 13 Old 05-27-2011, 08:51 AM Thread Starter
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AlexS: its so funny that you say that about making yourself competitive. I tried something like that the last time I rode him cantering on the line, and it really helped.

That is really what I'm looking for on this thread, to hear how others cajole/pep talk/pump yourself up. There have been a lot of fear threads lately and i thought it would be neat to see others beat their nerves.

Believe it or not, i have a pretty darn good and confident seat... On finished horses!

I ride Dancer,
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... Sorry phone post.

Dancer is a quarter Morgan I canter on bareback, and I ride Z, a finished Arab in a western saddle. Kelty is just soooooooooo fast! I used to like fast...
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I totally understand how you're feeling, different horses have a different way of going and even little changes can be scary!
Unfortunately I don't really have any tips on getting over your fears but I think the most important thing is to work hard with your horse on collecting and slowing down his canter. Just because he's had some bad riders in the past doesn't mean he can't slow down, but you need to be confident a firm when you tell him what to do. Nervous horses aren't slow horses!
Good luck :)
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