Falling is part of how you learn. I was always told that you aren't a real rider until you've fallen off at least 10 times. Lol
Every fall is an opportunity to learn something. Since I started riding again in January after a 15 year hiatus, here is what I've learned from falls off three different horses:
Fall 1: One of my fist times back riding, the horse was testing me I think. He just spooked/hopped to the left, and I went to the right. Lesson: "Oh yeah, I have leg muscles, I should use them!"
Fall 2: Horse made a nasty swing out at a jump at the very last minute. My face went into the jump standard. Lesson: "Don't jump ahead, dumb***!"
Fall 3: Horse tripped and fell, catapulting me off to the side (which was good, bc if I'd tried to stay on on that one, I would have gotten smooshed) Lesson: Sometimes, coming off the horse is far preferable to staying on. Also, if you have to come off, landing on your shoulder/side is way better than anywhere else.
Fall 4: Cantering on a trail ride. Horse spooked and pulled an unexpected full stop/swing around. I landed on my tailbone. Lesson A: Even if everything seems great, keep your legs tight, your body grounded be ready for anything, because you never know when a fracking butterfly is going to freak your horse out. Lesson B: Don't land on you ****** tailbone. Lesson C: Even if your tailbone hurts, if you're on a trail ride, stand up faster, or you may have to walk back to the barn when your horse makes a bolt for it.
I think the 6 years I rode before, I didn't fall off as much as I have in the past 9 months, but I've learned from every single fall, and am a better rider because of it. I push myself, in a safe environment, with a good instructor, to do better and make improvements and sometimes, that means I come off. That said, having learned my lessons, I think I'm due for a nice long period of staying on, especially now that my muscle strength has started to catch up with my muscle memory.