I have a TWH. This girl has a Thorobred jumper, a very nice horse, but needs to be ridden more often and this girl only rides once a week. The horse can find lots of reasons to get mad and bolt. The horse is now for sale. I asked the girl if I could just ride her for a few minutes. All I really wanted to do is soften the horse and see if I can get some kind of communication going.
I ride for 10 minutes, just getting the horse round between my hands , legs and seat. The horse's attempts to shut down are becoming less and less. So I am really enjoying this. She's relaxed enough to do a bit of lengthening and shortening at a walk. She's really stretching out nice.
Then the trainer/BO jumps into the ring and says "you are making her mad and she is going to bolt!." She says I'm annoying the horse too much and you don't ride jumpers that way. So she keeps directing me about what to do and not do. She says not to use any leg because the horse wrings her tail when I do.
Then she says I should take some dressage lessons. I say I'd love to when I have some money.
I was deep into dressage many years ago. I try to keep my basics and ride any horse based on that. I'm really not having any problems.
BO/trainer says a lesson with her will get me and get my horse gaiting to our full potential.
I have no problems with my gaited horse. She is gaiting to her full potential when she nods, and her ears flop with the rhythm (that's what a TWH does). What I am working towards with her is more consistency. I can't say I've ever pi$$ed any horse off. And I certainly don't need to use any muscle or heavy hand to get a horse to communicate.
Maybe this trainer is being melodramatic. If she couldn't teach a rider to not let her horse bolt off in 2 years, maybe she just didn't want me accomplishing anything without her input and in front of a group of people who board there.
I just really don't think I'm doing any harm without the lessons. I feel like I'm doing just fine by myself and getting what I ask for with a horse. Just by listening to the horse, and the horse listen to me. My gf coaches me from time to time and I know what I need to work on.
I just end up thinking that everything I do needs to be corrected.