My thoughts exactly SR! I see many a horse ruined and "blamed" for her not climbing the ladder in competition as quickly (or at all) in her future.
When someone shows you their low character, take them at their word and don't excuse it for reasons like "she's just upset". True character comes out in moments of stress and challenge. She's shown her's, walk away , quickly.
I'm glad that you stuck through it, and did what you did knowing it could come to this. Honestly I have to agree with everyone else, good riddance to her. She is so **ll bent on getting to the top that she's not looking out for anyones safety, her's, the horse's, or anyone else who might be involved. She is full of herself, and hopefully someday will climb down off of her high horse, and realize that life isn't all about one upping your friends, or getting to the top no matter what it takes. I would see what other horse people are around the barn that are your age, and befriend them, and start to go out on ride with them. I would just take a breath, and remember that you did all you could, you managed to keep her from getting this horse, and helped her parents see the light, and now its out of your hands. If she doesn't want to listen, then well there's nothing left you can do. You are a great friend even if she doesn't want to admit it.
Thanks guys....yeah normally she's all nice and kind but when she gets mad she FLIPS. And she's flipped on me a few times. I had stopped talking to her before because she was spreading rumors about people around school...but then gave her another chance...she's not getting another chance this time even if she comes back on her knees begging. I think the sadness part of this situation is leaving because now I'm just mad about how she talked about Phantom(meaning has she always felt that way about him?) and because she can't see with her own eyes why I told her trainer. She lost in her world like what SR said "Black Stallion Syndrome"
It's a shame but I'm glad I have her mom on my side so hopefully she wont even think about going after a horse that is way out of her level later on...or at least till she moves out.
Phantom, usually when people put down something someone else has (and they do not) it is out of spite, envy and jealousy. I don't believe she thinks your horse is a nag(and truly doesn't matter if she does), but used hurtful words because 1. She knew it would hurt you (nice friend in that alone eh?) 2. Is jealous that you have a horse and a good relationship with the horse. Sometimes people accuse you of the very things they suffer from (jealousy).
Shrug it off best you can, and don't hold her pettiness and cruelty against her, but except it as part of who she is. Not someone you really want in your life as a friend.
Hey so I don't know if this is the right place or not but if it isn't could it please be moved?
I want to know if anyone would buy a horse that killed it's last rider? My friend is interested in a horse that they know killed it's last rider and they are considering it. The horse was(idk if it still is) a serious rearer and had reared and flipped onto it's last rider killing them. Personally I don't think my friend should go for it because I just think it's too dangerous. Also they don't have the time to put into the horse to train it out of rearing if it still rears. I'm just worried and don't want them to get hurt.
What do you guys think?
The fact the horse killed someone doesn't bother me, because its not a common regular thing. It's a danger you agree on when you ride ANY horse. The fact the horse is a rearer is what I'm concerned about. Does she have the experience to deal with a rearer?
Good job Phantom! And she isn't a friend let alone a good friend. But I am very pleased at how the mother handled things! And hopefully you continue to have a good relationship with her :) Have a good time getting your hair done! I'm jealous! I am in serious need of a hair cut!
Phantom, I'm sorry that you lost a friend over this, but if she was so quick to shut out your opinion and flip out on you like that, she wasn't a very good friend to begin with. You did the right thing by talking to everyone you needed to talk to in order to keep her safe.