Honestly I've been in a similar situation (not with a horse that was a killer but with a friend) and while it is sad to lose someone you have been friends with for so long, you were polite (it seems) and genuinely concerned. If someone is going to walk out of your life and throw personal insults at you, then I have to say like what I went through, you in the long run will be better off without them. The best you can hope is that she calms down and sees that you were genuinely trying to help and comes back to you as an honest friend who can be a part of the friendship rather than just a friend that you can only tell what they want to hear. That's how it was with my friend - if I said or asked anything that wasn't what they wanted to hear, I was negative and mean - and honestly do you really want to be a dishonest friend?
Cheers, hon, you did the right thing. Most importantly your friend is not getting a horse that is grossly dangerous!
Had it xrayed on tuesday night when we had the accident, however by the time I got to hospital and seen to, the swelling was huge ad the Xrays went fuzzy because of it.
I went to hospital because I couldnt lift my right arm anywhere past the height of my shoulder, it just wouldnt go. I was sure I had done my collar bone but apparently that is fine, the pain is at the back of my shoulder anyway. So they Xrayed me, it went fuzzy so I ot sent home with lots of pills and told to go back on monday for more Xrays and to scan it is nessecary, hopefully the swelling will have gone down by then.
That said I am slowly gaining a greater range of motion in my arm so I am beggining to suspect that it is just one huge bruise with some nerve involvement. I can now lift my arm up just above shoulder height and rotate it out which mum believes I shouldnt be able to do if anything is broken and if it was broken then it should be getting worse not better.
So cross fingers and hope that it isnt as bad as it first looked.
Faye that's encouraging news. My friend did break her collar bone, plus several ribs, and couldn't lift or even move her arm. Keeping my fingers crossed that it's not broken, but as you said, badly bruised.
Also, stunning horse, even if he is a bit of a stinker!
IMO a horse that is 11 or more yrs old, and know how to hurt someone/kill someone, needs to go to slaughter. Better to help feed hungry people than to put someone's life in danger in such an extreme way. I once rode a horse who reared. I was lucky the gound was soft and I only got a few torn muslces out of the deal. He was a quarterhorse and had Impressive in his back ground. Well anywho the lady who owned him did send him to a professional who set the horse up to rear so he could "correct" the problem, and the horse chased him down! As soon as he was safe he called the owner and told her to come get her horse! I havent heard anymore about the horse in years,im hoping he got putdown. No one needs a "mankiller" on their hands. I still have problems with my leg (the one with the torn muscle) so I think about him quite frequently..... and would never get on a horse that was a known rearer.. even when my trusted horse pops up (nomore than a foot of the ground) I have to fight to remain calm. And I have worked hard with her to stop that stuff. She rarely does it anymore. Thank goodness. Well sorry to rant,but I had to add my 2cents...... and btw you can always find new friends, sorry that one didn't panout for you!