You have to get selective about whom you deal with. Many horse owners come from money, and monied people are often snotty people. If I could just get some to stalk off (without standing around giving advice all the time!)
Originally Posted by morabhobbyhorse View Post
DSJ46, isn't that the truth. At my last barn there was a woman who boarded two horses, and FIRST said her saddles were out being cleaned. They never showed up. When she finally got around to riding one of them with a BO saddle, I had to saddle the horse for her. She didn't have a clue. She liked to come out to catch up on the latest gossip, start trouble, AND tell you how to train your horse. I'd be taking a break and Sienna would be at the rail and as soon as I walked off she'd start pawing (She's a Morab by the way and I love Arabians too but she's too smart for her own good.) This woman would yell at Sienna, and then say, 'Aren't you going to make her quit?' I told her 'nope, tried, she wants me to come back and that just reinforces what she's doing.' So the woman goes over to Sienna and tells her to stop, and stands there until I come back. Her favorite two words were You should.......I pretty much know a lot of the time what I should do, although I can be in a fog a lot of times, LOL. Glad to be away from there I can tell you!!
I agree, there can always be snobs out there. But I didn't get that from this situation. She had a cross-breed, a youngster, and was working with it herself. I wasn't there of course, but from what I've read that doesn't scream "snob" to me. If she were a snob, she would be bragging about her purebred yadda-yadda, what great bloodlines it's from, and how she's going to have her trainer train it, and it's going to go out and win every show out there. But hey, I wasn't there.
Sometimes I think Arabian owners are extra-defensive because we feel like we have to always defend our horses against people who make rude comments about them (not saying that the original poster did, but that is how we perceive it because people are always making rude comments about Arabians). So after a while, we can become a bit more sensitive than we should be.
Back when I was in a boarding situation, I had two Arabians and I got tired of hearing about "crazy Arabians." But what finally gave me peace was the realization that the people that talked the most were the people that had trouble with their own horses. And MY horses carried me safely everywhere and out on the trails by myself. I feel like actions speak louder than words, and my Arabians were good, solid citizens. The only reason I don't have them now is because they passed away.