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post #11 of 40 Old 05-23-2011, 10:41 PM
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Unfortunately, some people don't take horse-humor well when you're talking about their horse. Thankfully, most of them can laugh along with you, whether you're talking about crazy Ay-rabs, big butt QHs, or quirky OTTBs.

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post #12 of 40 Old 05-23-2011, 10:43 PM Thread Starter
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I probably should have given a little more background as well. I was writing on a spirt of the moment on my phone.

This horse is owned by a young girl and her mother who are first time horse owners. They initially had no idea what they were getting into being green themselves an getting a 3 year old paint/arab. So they plan on selling the horse and getting one thats well broke, which sounds like a great idea to me. Now the trainer was the girl who was handling the horse when I was there today. It was the trainer that was offended by my comments. She is pissed that the owners are selling the horse, she says they are selling because its an Arabian. I was under the impression they were selling because they couldn't handle him and needed something older and well trained to get them started into horse owning.

Yes, I said the wrong thing. I realized that as I was typing out the first post. My words, which I thought were just starting a conversation lightly, could be taken badly. I love the way arabs move so when it spooked and pranced around with its tail and head in the air I was trying to admire it. Then when I say my horse has an arab brain, its because he is this stocky paint that moves and carriers himself like an arabian. He is extremely curious and has such a personality. He is also hot, but I could compare him to a lot of other breeds for being hot, but its the personality and movement that reminded my specifically of an arab. I have actually had many people get great amusement out of the fact that he moves/acts like one yet he has absolutely none of their beautiful conformation. xP

I wouldn't confront her about the issue or hold a grudge, but I don't think I'll go out of my way to make friends either.
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post #13 of 40 Old 05-24-2011, 01:00 AM
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Even if you weren't trying to be rude, it seems like she perceived you that way. I think an easy solution would be to explain that you didn't mean anything by it and love arabians - maybe she'll explain why she's so defensive. Who knows, maybe she hears a lot of flack and you just tipped her over the edge. Always try to give first impressions the benefit of the doubt.
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post #14 of 40 Old 05-24-2011, 11:31 AM Thread Starter
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^^ The problem is that that I did just that. I tried explaining that I loved Arabians and that their outstanding personality and movement is something that makes them wonderfully unique from other horses. She just wouldn't hear it.

I always try to give a benefit of the doubt. Its just the fact that she made a point to call me over to the arena and chew me out when it was my third day at the place. IDK I always try to make a positive impression, I really do. Its just not something I would talk about with someone I didn't know. I've always had people that get to know me before they feel they can talk to me in such a way.
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post #15 of 40 Old 05-24-2011, 11:45 AM
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^^ The problem is that that I did just that. I tried explaining that I loved Arabians and that their outstanding personality and movement is something that makes them wonderfully unique from other horses. She just wouldn't hear it.

I always try to give a benefit of the doubt. Its just the fact that she made a point to call me over to the arena and chew me out when it was my third day at the place. IDK I always try to make a positive impression, I really do. Its just not something I would talk about with someone I didn't know. I've always had people that get to know me before they feel they can talk to me in such a way.
Think about it from her point of view, your third day, you do not know her or her horses and yet you made an off hand not so nice comment.
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post #16 of 40 Old 05-24-2011, 11:49 AM
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How funny! Arabians are the ADHD horses of the equine world!
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post #17 of 40 Old 05-24-2011, 12:00 PM Thread Starter
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Think about it from her point of view, your third day, you do not know her or her horses and yet you made an off hand not so nice comment.
I do understand her initial frustration but there was no way to make it right with her. Her horse was an arabian and I was trying to let her know that I had referred to the movement more than the spook. I had been trying to compliment her horse, and mine later on saying that mine thought he was an arabian. Yes I offended her breed before with my phrase, but she did overreact and did not hear anything I said after, but I still had to listen to her telling me I knew nothing about horses and that I was the type of person she hated. I've learned to just keep my mouth shut now. >.>
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post #18 of 40 Old 05-24-2011, 12:09 PM
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You have to get selective about whom you deal with. Many horse owners come from money, and monied people are often snotty people. If I could just get some to stalk off (without standing around giving advice all the time!)
That's very far from being true. I went/go to fancy barns for lessons (jumper/hunters as well as dressage) and I NEVER had a bad look on me or my little barrel with 4 legs qh (except one trainer). In fact I got compliments from people with expensive horses about her look and personality. In too many cases its all about your own personality and attitude, not other people.

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post #19 of 40 Old 05-24-2011, 12:12 PM
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You don't need to keep your mouth shut, you didn't do anything. if someone said to me 'Arabian brain' (which is nicer than what people have said to me) I'd smile thinking, 'yup, intelligent, sometimes devious, playful' etc. not all the crap she gave you. You apologized so just figure she was having a bad day and stay away from her.
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post #20 of 40 Old 05-24-2011, 12:13 PM
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Think about it from her point of view, your third day, you do not know her or her horses and yet you made an off hand not so nice comment.
I do agree. I also agree with girl's statement that "if horse misbehaves it's not always an Arab". I don't know... While I didn't really work with arabs those I've seen were behaving very nicely (including stud in bunch of mares he rode with). I don't think its about the breed, its about the training.

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