I know what you mean Horsesdon'tlie
I WENT to see Sienna today and it was awesome. A friend went with me to help make me go and the barn was almost totally empty because they kick off their annual events on Memorial Day Weekend. Everyone was at the ranch except for maybe 5-6 people.
I was upset about the place the barn manager told me I could put my tack but that was within the first few minutes where I was still wound up about going. By the time I went to the pasture to get her, she immediately calmed me down. She started to walk off, but I turned sidewards and she stopped. I gave her wither a good scritch before I changed her into the rope halter. When I took her out of the pasture full of mares, she immediately started eating grass (she's a 24/7 eater, LOL, was eating the leftover hay from this morning when I went in) and my friend brought her some baby carrots but didn't want to feed her one, was nervous. I don't give her any treats anymore cause she gets pushy so my friend who is afraid of horses and has seen how 'Arab' Sienna can act gave her one. It was so hot we moved over under a tree so I could mosey her, just let her wander and eat nice, crispy wet grass. When we moved away from the herd she started circling, snatch a mouthful, then circle, but she calmed down in a couple minutes. So Patti and I talked, she was holding my service dog for me, and Sienna and I moseyed from tree to tree for grass. I spent the time scratching her itchy places, and checking out her couple 'hairless' places where she tried to be alpha and got bit for her trouble, LOL. None of them were open or anything, just missing hair. All her winter coat was gone just from this month, and she's all shinny and dappled again. I have a feeling we'll be doing a few more moseying trips before I make her work. That's how we built our first bond and it's never been broken, tested LOL, but never broken. It was a perfect first visit.
I was so pleased by your answer about the paint. I talked to Patti about that very thing coming home. A lot of people like you would just get rid of Jake and 'move up.' I have never understood this in the horse world. People say, 'QUIT treating them like a pet dog and get their respect.' Well if your dog doesn't respect and mind you, you're just going to have a smaller monster on your hands. Could you imagine if people traded their dogs like horses, 'oh that one's younger, bigger, prettier, more in style, etc.' other people would be horrified. My biggest concern is Sienna is probably going to outlive me, and I'll have her put down before I take a chance on someone else not treating her with respect and love. And I'll be there to do the injection myself, unless something unforeseen happens so her last memory isn't of a vet. But fortunately that's years away for both if us, I hope.
Oh and if anyone can understand the drain on a wallet I can. I'm on SSDI and it's not easy to keep a horse on that. I tried to get a rescue PMU yearling and they said I didn't have enough money to keep a horse. Well 3 years later I still Have Sienna, fat, sassy, and healthy!!!! You make your choices on how to spend your money and what you can live without. Good luck with your training project. Cheryl