VelvetsAB- sorry, I don't think I read your post very carefully before responding. What do you mean by neat and tidy but not under your helmet? Like a bun? You MIGHT be able to get away with that but I wouldn't recommend it. It just doesn't look right! I hate "show bows" even more. I know a lot of people refer to them as "scrotum bags" and well... yeah.
I don't know what to tell you! If you were one of my students I'd say, just make it work! If you're paying the big bucks to come to a rated show, you gotta look the part. I have kids who cut their hair during the show season so it'll fit under their helmet and a little girl who grows her hair long so she can have pigtails with bows.
I wear white pants after labor day, I don't care if people wear socks with flip flops, go ahead and wear a brown belt with black shoes... if one of my students decided to sport a hot pink mohawk? Beautiful. But when it comes to shows? It's going under your helmet!
But like I said, I'm old fashioned when it comes to things like that.