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post #1 of 11 Old 07-07-2012, 02:34 PM Thread Starter
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Angry Don't assume you know their age!

There has been something that has bothered me since my daughter started showing (it's been an issue all her life actually) and this forum seems like the perfect place for me to finally vent. :)

My daughter has always been really tall and has always looked years older then she is. She just turned 11 but is a foot taller then me and wears a size 9 shoe. Anyway, since she just turned 11 she can show in the 10 and under class because the she was 10 by January 1st. Weel, this past show in her very first class (Huntseat Eq.) she got first out of 7 riders. As she was walking out of the arena she heard a handler tell the rider "Don't be upset you didn't win, that girl is cheating she is way older then 10." She was really really sad about it and I it made me so angry it took everything in my power not to go find that handler and give her a piece of my mind.

Then when I was at the kiosk waiting to look at the Championship pictures (she won Resrved Champion in both Eq. and HP) there was a lady who was there frist looking at the screen in front of us with one fo the girls who were in my daughters class. Not realizing I was behind her, she pointed at my daughters picture and said "I really don't think that girl who won was 10." She didn't say it meanly but still. I leaned over and said nicely, "Hi, I'm her mom and I know she doesn't look it, but she just turned 11 this month." She smiled and apologized and was very nice but it just irked me.

Anyway, I apologize for this long rant and I hope it doesn't come across too complainy. I just wanted to put it out there that sometimes kids in these age classes can look much older then they are. Be careful before you assume someone is cheating. :)
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post #2 of 11 Old 07-07-2012, 02:40 PM
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I understand that my friend lauren just turned 16 and she looks 18 is a good 6 in taller then me and wears a size 10. So tell your daughter not to take it to heart people love to.make up excuses. Congrats on her wins! :)

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post #3 of 11 Old 07-07-2012, 02:46 PM
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Awwww, poor kid had to hear comments demeaning her hard work for her wins, makes me upset as mom to hear this as well. All you can do is what you have done, politely explain she is only 11, most people will apologize as you have seen. When you win, everyone else will come up with excuses why you did, whether you could afford a better horse, tack, blah, blah, so petty! In few more years when the other kids catch up with your daughter in growth, guess they will have to come with other excuses why she won!
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post #4 of 11 Old 07-07-2012, 02:53 PM
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I have a friend whose daughter is really tall and has always looked older than her real age.

Poor Claire had to put up with the same kind of things, until her age finally caught up with her body. People need to realize that just because a child is tall and starting to develop adult physical traits, doesn't mean they're not in the correct age division.

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post #5 of 11 Old 07-07-2012, 02:55 PM
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I have the opposite problem. I have competed in the adult classes this year for the first time, and people don't believe I am 18.
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post #7 of 11 Old 07-10-2012, 04:29 PM
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Agreed with Tennessee. I'm 19 and people usually guess I'm 14.

Poor girl, though. Like waresbear said, it's a pity people are making excuses for themselves instead of recognizing all of your daughter's hard work.
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post #8 of 11 Old 07-10-2012, 04:54 PM
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I have the opposite problem, too... I'm going to be 22 next month, 2.5 years older than my sister. I'm 5 foot 3, and she's 5 foot 7. Strangers always mistake her for the older sibling. My friends tell me I might be able to pass for 16 or so now, lol.

Shoot, I was at the Dr.'s for a physical a few weeks back, and the receptionist (with all my info in-hand, no less) asked me how school was going; I answered that I'd just graduated, and she got this shocked look on her face and asked if I had any college plans. That look of shock got even more spectacular when I explained that it was college that I'd just graduated from. I suppose I'll be thankful in a few years, hahaha

@uflrh9y: What a shame your daughter had to hear those comments... and what a bigger shame that other folks jumped to the conclusion that she was cheating. It'll get better in time, especially as the other kids in her division start to hit their own growth spurts. That's definitely the age where they get taller and look more adult from one week to the next, and there can be huge discrepancies from one 10-11 year old to another.

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post #9 of 11 Old 07-10-2012, 05:44 PM
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i just turned 18 and prople think i look older then i really am a little over 2 years ago the person who was doing our horses teeth thought i was 22 when i was 16.
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post #10 of 11 Old 07-10-2012, 09:52 PM
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Heh, I've had the opposite problem.

The year before last I went to an adult team competition (18+ IIRC but could have been 21+), and the judge stopped me before my ride and asked if I was old enough to be there. I was 25 at the time :P
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