08-06-2009, 05:34 AM
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Hey its ok it happens to everyone at some point
08-06-2009, 07:08 AM
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Thanks savvy, I know we'll get over it and move on...we have another show this weekend so we've already stopped dwelling on it and are now focused on completing this one without an elimination!
08-06-2009, 09:08 AM
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I am sorry to hear about your loved one's battle of cancer. My Mothers side *she has ...well, had 24 brothers and sisters* and cancer is the main cause of death on her side. I've watched a few Aunts and Uncles die slowly of cancer, it is a horrible disease for anyone to have to go through.
See HITS, I'm proud of all of your accomplishments, I didn't want to come across as being mean either, but I just worried about your train of thought with the comps.
I totally understand your frustration of getting Eliminated - but be proud of yourself because 1) You knew it was your fault 2) You know what you are going to work on next time - you have a goal......
Those two in itself is a huge accomplishment
And that, is what Eventing is about. You have a goal for your next comp, staying over Sandie, staying behind your horse and driving forward. That in itself is a huge accomplishment to succeed in what you set out to conqour.
I have walked into the Stadium Ring, 1st place - and due to my stupid errors, we end up 4th or 5th. I've done that quite a few times. Oh my gosh. I hate it, because I get over confident and then flub up. It happens, but the next time I am at a comp, I know I have to ride every step with the belief that every inch is just as important as the last.
I remember back in my Pony Club days, I came off out on CC a few times as well, because I would get ahead of my horse. But you have to get up and keep going.
The reason why I said "the way you talk" is because I hear you say in past posts "I almost had that blue", or "Yes I see what you are saying, but I was almost on that podium" *don't quote me word for word, but you get what I mean* I know it is hard to get what you want to say exactly when you are typing on a computer screen - I do it all the time. My brain is saying one thing and then somehow along the line from getting it onto the computer....what I wanted to say doesn't come out at all how I meant.
I get misinterpreted at being rude or mean, but I really am not - I wear my heart on my sleeve and I am the type of person who would take my shirt off my back if I knew someone needed it - but that is how it comes across on the computer screen because I am not so eloquant with words.
So I understand where you are saying you were misinterpreted - easy to happen on forums. Especially when you don't get to see a face, face expressions, hear the tone of voice, and body language.
There is going to be allot of failures out there, but without those, you don't learn. Without the mistakes and the faults and the errors, you wont beable to mould into an educated, experienced rider that you want to be.
You have to have the Elimintations - to stop and say "Ok, now I know how to fix this". Without Sandie teaching you to stay behind her at the base of the fence, I guarantee you'd of continued to jump ahead.
I for one am super proud that you are able to learn these riding lessons - because when you get to bigger and harder fences in the Eventing World, you will most definitely have to stay behind your horse. *I am not talking about getting left behind, I am saying riding more defensively/solidly/over your horse, not ahead*
I think you have come along way, and for that - be very proud of both you and Sandie. I for one am.
08-06-2009, 12:31 PM
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Thank you MIEventer. I know you're not a mean person, and I didn't take it that way. I just felt like I was really being unfairly interpreted. I don't want anyone, least of all you, to think that I'm only in it to win ribbons. That IS a nice bonus and of course one of the reasons to compete (otherwise I would just go to schooling days and not compete at all, it's much cheaper!)
But it's not the world to me, and I certainly don't want to come across that way to anyone. It is difficult online because other than the smilies, there's no real way to display your emotions. I think that what you said above about getting over confident is certainly what happened to me in this case, and what got me into trouble. I was so excited about my dressage test and the fact that we'd been on this course before, that I didn't pay as much attention as I should have so when I fell it was kind of one of those "oh you MORON you knew better than that!!" kind of moments.
I hate those, but they do keep you level headed I guess! Lol
08-06-2009, 03:25 PM
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Yeah, if you knew me in person - you'd know me as the biggest smart arse ever, who laughs allot. I find humour in allot of things - at work, I laugh so much with my co-workers and goof around...that's who I am.
I love to laugh and joke, and I am extremely sarcastic - I get my sense of humor from my dad.
You know, I have faults and issues of my own, we all do - we are imperfect and human. I was just trying to reach out as a friend because I felt that you were heading down the wrong path mentally where shows were in concern - and I reached out the only way I know how on the internet. I'm not always tactful, but my real friends know I don't mean any harm by it.
Ah ha ha - yeah, over confidence is the worse fault us as riders can allow ourselves to emote.
I am a rider who likes to be the first one in - regardless - doesn't matter if is a Hunter/Jumper show, a Stadium Round, a Dessage Show, or Eventing - I like to be the first one to ride, so that I can do my best without any expectations.
That way when I am done, I don't have to worry about how other are going to perform, because I'm already done. See what I mean?
When I end up being the 10th in the ring to do my Stadium Round at an Event or the 4th in the Dressage Ring or what-have-you, I end up watching and then that puts pressure on me to succeed above what those people before me did. That's when I get over confident, and that's when I screw up.
So I really have to make it a habit to not watch any rides at all. I can't - or I'll @#$*! Up!
Not this last Event I did with Nelson, but the Event previous - I made a big boo boo. We were 5th after dressage, then 1st after CC. Walked into the stadium ring - we were the 2nd to last to ride.
All those before us, faulted up the ying yang. There was one really tight turn into a 3 jump combo that many over shot, screwing up the first fence which then screwed up the last 2 as it always goes.
So our turn was up, we got through the tight turn beautifully, rode the combo smooth as butter. Then the last 2 fences were approaching. At that moment, I was thinking it was in the bag - when I turned into the passenger instead of the rider because I was in la la land.........Nelson took the fence big, I got left behind and then thrown up ahead of him.
I ended up on his neck when we landed. I managed to stop him and never fell off - but we shot past the next fence. Which meant that I had to cross our path to get to the last fence.
4 faults was what we ended up with - which moved us to 4th.
I was so angry at myself for screwing up. I cried all the way home. I was so angry at my stupidity.
So I completley understand your frustration at your error at that 1 fence on CC. BUT be thankful for it as well. Without it, you would never of learnt that lesson. I have to look back at my mistakes as well, and be thankful for them - because those are what make us better riders. Without them, we would never improve because we wouldn't know what was needed to be improved on.
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