Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Eventing Country
• Horses: 0
I am sorry to hear about your loved one's battle of cancer. My Mothers side *she has ...well, had 24 brothers and sisters* and cancer is the main cause of death on her side. I've watched a few Aunts and Uncles die slowly of cancer, it is a horrible disease for anyone to have to go through.
See HITS, I'm proud of all of your accomplishments, I didn't want to come across as being mean either, but I just worried about your train of thought with the comps.
I totally understand your frustration of getting Eliminated - but be proud of yourself because 1) You knew it was your fault 2) You know what you are going to work on next time - you have a goal......
Those two in itself is a huge accomplishment
And that, is what Eventing is about. You have a goal for your next comp, staying over Sandie, staying behind your horse and driving forward. That in itself is a huge accomplishment to succeed in what you set out to conqour.
I have walked into the Stadium Ring, 1st place - and due to my stupid errors, we end up 4th or 5th. I've done that quite a few times. Oh my gosh. I hate it, because I get over confident and then flub up. It happens, but the next time I am at a comp, I know I have to ride every step with the belief that every inch is just as important as the last.
I remember back in my Pony Club days, I came off out on CC a few times as well, because I would get ahead of my horse. But you have to get up and keep going.
The reason why I said "the way you talk" is because I hear you say in past posts "I almost had that blue", or "Yes I see what you are saying, but I was almost on that podium" *don't quote me word for word, but you get what I mean* I know it is hard to get what you want to say exactly when you are typing on a computer screen - I do it all the time. My brain is saying one thing and then somehow along the line from getting it onto the computer....what I wanted to say doesn't come out at all how I meant.
I get misinterpreted at being rude or mean, but I really am not - I wear my heart on my sleeve and I am the type of person who would take my shirt off my back if I knew someone needed it - but that is how it comes across on the computer screen because I am not so eloquant with words.
So I understand where you are saying you were misinterpreted - easy to happen on forums. Especially when you don't get to see a face, face expressions, hear the tone of voice, and body language.
There is going to be allot of failures out there, but without those, you don't learn. Without the mistakes and the faults and the errors, you wont beable to mould into an educated, experienced rider that you want to be.
You have to have the Elimintations - to stop and say "Ok, now I know how to fix this". Without Sandie teaching you to stay behind her at the base of the fence, I guarantee you'd of continued to jump ahead.
I for one am super proud that you are able to learn these riding lessons - because when you get to bigger and harder fences in the Eventing World, you will most definitely have to stay behind your horse. *I am not talking about getting left behind, I am saying riding more defensively/solidly/over your horse, not ahead*
I think you have come along way, and for that - be very proud of both you and Sandie. I for one am.