As many of you know I am in the process of moving from Colorado to Texas (which... may fall through ._., in which case Gator would move home, but that's besides the point), and I am keeping him at a Hunter/Jumper facility there. I am allowing the trainer at this barn to use him for lessons at no cost. It is worth it to me that he gets exercise while I am gone.
I was out to visit earlier this year for a few weeks and was able to ride/lesson. He had picked up a few bad habits, but that is to be expected while being used as a lesson horse for a few different riders. Aside from this, things have worked out very well. The trainer/BO is professional and keeps me updated.
So yesterday, with my e-mailed invoice, the trainer/barn owner gave me the usual update. In this update, she essentially asked if one of her students could take Gator to a show. She would be showing in pre-childrens, so nothing big. There are other horses she could bring, but prefers my horse.
My immediate thought is no. I feel like I have worked too hard (I am a full time college student, and work full time to support Gator) to let someone else show him.
So... How do I say this tactfully? How would you feel about someone else riding your horse/taking your horse off property without you being there? Am I being selfish? I certainly feel that way, but the answer remains no...