Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Ontario, Canada
• Horses: 0
Parental Pressure- Update
Well I posted before about my parents pressuring me to win every class and that I wanted to move up in height at shows. I got quite a response from everyone, update is that I will continue to show at the same level for the next 3 shows on the one circuit. Then to finish the year I will move up on the A shows just to get experience at that level, no points, pressure or any hope for the shows except fun time and stay on course! So everything there is good. My coach and I had a talk about it and we have come to that and I now know her plan so everything is good.
As for my parents lol, my dad – who knows nothing about showing horses, got me kicked out of a class for “coaching” me from the side lines. I couldn’t even hear him.. I wasn’t exactly listening for him anyway. My coach was SUPER SUPER mad at him and I wasn’t too impressed either.
I guess that pressure back fired on him? But I’m the one who had to deal with it…. The joys of horse shows lol. But it was a really good show that aside. I have told my parents to let me do me. Before that happened we where all sitting beside the ring and my dad was telling me what I did wrong in the previous show and going on and on about it and my coach was looking at us. So I had the chance to say what I needed to say without it hurting anyone’s feelings exc. I just said in a humorous kind of way that “Dad this is my coach, if there is something I need to work on she will tell me and she's done a great job so far so I don’t think you need to step in” ( and then I laughed a little ). This was the time when I talked to my coach with my parents there about what the official plan is for my showing. And since I now know the whole story I am quite happy with it. I just really like to know why I’m doing things. And that can be taken as questioning peoples choices but it really is just how my mind works. If I don’t know the whole story/reason my mind can run away with me.
I have a very strange relationship with my parents, so any thing you may find me being rude to them.. trust me they throw it right back. But it was good to get it all out there with all people involved in my little problem.