03-31-2013, 10:18 PM
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I'm a show mom, so let me tell you how we do it.
Every year, I make a list of all the shows in our area. The list includes location, distance, whether we need a hotel (plus average hotel cost), show entry fees, stall fees, classes, and any other info I can gather.
I then look at a calendar and pencil in the shows. Then, my daughter's trainer works with us to help us decide which shows/classes would be best for my daughter and her horse (based on their readiness).
Once we have ALL that data, I select one show per month. I do not allow my daughter to show more than once per month. I do this for a variety of reasons.
1) Shows are expensive. I'm willing to budget up to $300 per month for a show (all inclusive: hotel, coach, stall, gas, entry fees)...and honestly that only covers ONE show at my daughters current level (local show by our horseman's assoc).
2). I don't want my daughter OR her horse to get arena sour. If all they do is show or practice for a show, I notice that both of them lose their spark.
3). While I love watching my daughter show, her Father and I would like to have a life too. We go to the stable 3 nights a week. I'm willing to give up one weekend a month. Since my husband and I both work full-time, I need my weekends to catch up on chores and take care of our family's other needs.
3b). We have other pets, so finding someone to watch our dogs every weekend would be difficult if not impossible.
So, be reasonable in your request. Do your research, know every expense and check the family calendar...then work out a proposal to your parents that includes the needs of the family too.
Be careful that you do not come across as selfish and entitled. Your tone and approach must be respectful. If I ever feel like my child is trying to dictate my life/schedule...I know I would shut it down fast, up to and including taking away her show privileges.
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