Well Sasha and I's connection kind of came over a looong period of time. I was so scared of her for the first month and I half I had her - she would bolt when we rode, we missed many many shows, she reared a few times when I was leading her, she was nervy, she was head shy, and I had no confidence, and was seriously considering selling her. Yet gradually she got better on the ground, she would ask for cuddles, but I think the big breakthrough on the ground was when she thrust hr head into my arms. Now, she is amazing to ride, I have more confidence, and she has helped me so much as a rider. I am the first to volunteer to ride that bucker, or lead the horse that drags everyone around, or when Sasha decides she'd rather rear and back up instead of go to the jump, I'll just let her throw her tantrum [make it unpleasant for her, but let her throw it] instead of giving up. I realized about 2 months ago how much she truly meant to me. I was just giving her a hug and I just started crying. I was the happiest I had been in a while due to bullying and all that drama, just standing there hugging her. I loved her so much, I would have done anything to just stand there and hug her. Sometimes when I look at her, I just get so emotional from all the love and everything I feel that I just feel tears well up that I have my gorgeous dream horse. I thought I wanted a 16.2hh gelding warmblood (and I did) but alas, I have my 16hh Thoroughbred mare, and I couldn't be happier. I know her quirks, like that she will lick a wall, person, bucket, stall guard, another horse, etc. after getting a treat, or that she'll do anything for this one treat I make her, or how the best way to get her to calm down is to just stand there calmly until she realizes her tantrum won't get her anywhere, or that when she's done galloping around the arena [when at liberty] she'll walk up to me and follow me until I get her halter and bring her back to her stall, or...I could go on forever. =_) I just can't believe how amazing my horse is.
Oh cry me a river, build a bridge, and get over it.