The next 30 day you will be embarking on a journey that will, hopefully, bring you closer to your kids and family. While it may not be easy, and you may have rough days I strongly encourage you to never give up. Your children are looking to you to finish this book.
During this journey I hope you will have another father or more, doing this with other men will help you through this, because if you are having a rough day, or you just are not getting into it, you’ll have a friend to help you.
If you are doing this with a friend I encourage that once a week or so, that you and your buddy get together ate a cafe’ or something and discuss how your days are going, and to also get into God’s word and pray.
In this journey it may be easy, it may be hard, but through it all don’t forget to talk with God daily and read your Bible, it doesn’t have to take a hour, if your short on time for work or something you only have to read the Bible for five minutes, and you can pray while getting ready for work (this is only an example). But no matter how you do it, it is important that you talk to God and let Him talk to you through His Word.
You may not be wanting to do this but it is important that you don’t stop or give up, this is not about you, this is about your family.
If you have watched the movies Courageous and Fire Proof, you may have an idea of how this book came to mind, and in one of the days there will be something on the movie Courageous and in another day there will be something on Fire Proof, but I think it would be good to watch those movies with a friend or with your family.
If you are at any point confused, talk with your friend, wife or pastor.
Now, I know that this book isn’t going to be as challenging as the book in Fire Proof, but, it may challenge you a bit, and I have tried to design it to challenge.
Another thing I want you to understand is that you are not expected to do this perfectly, but, you are expected to try your very best and not give up, don’t pass this off as a chore and don’t go about it as if your forced to do this. If you are not willing to let yourself be challenged then set the book down now and walk away.
Last, but not least, no matter what you do, your family still loves you, this book isn’t to tell you they don’t, it isn’t to make them love you, but it is designed to strengthen your relationship with your children, because after all, in the end, no matter what you own, no matter what kind of cool things you have, your family is all you’ll have left. Fire will come and destroy all your earthly loves and they will perish, but your family will not.
So, with all that said, I pray the best for you in these next few weeks, I will be praying and asking God to have His work in you through this time. Tomorrow will be your first day. I hope you can enjoy this book.
There Is No Perfect Father, But The On True Father.
Never has there been a perfect father on earth, the only perfect father is God.
A father should strive for perfection, though. Not a perfect father in the worlds eyes, but in God’s. Dads should want to be like God even if it is impossible.
Why do teen commit suicide? Or cut? Or do drugs? Why do kids become addicted to pornography? Or join gains? Why do they kill people? Why do they become attracted to someone of the same gender? Why are teens having sex?
You may not want to hear this, but, pretty much all of this is because the child’s father is never around, maybe he left the family, maybe the parents are divorced, or maybe the father is just too tied up in work. A child needs a father, there’s no way around this fact.
Today try to do something simple for your children, such as a heart felt hug, or a kiss on the fore head, and tell them you love them.
The saddest thing is when a child is surprised when their father reaches out to them.
Read: Jeremiah 3:4 and Proverbs 22:6
...I now believe that God desires for EVERY father to courageously step up and do whatever it takes to be involved in the lives of his children. But more than just being there providing for them, he is to walk with them through their young lives and be a visual representation of the character of God, their father in heaven. A father should love his children, and seek to win their hearts. He should protect them, discipline them, and teach them about God. He should model how to walk with integrity and treat others with respect, and should call out his children to become responsible men and women, who live their lives for what matters in eternity. Some men will hear this, and mock it. Or ignore it. But I tell you that as a father, you are accountable to God for the position of influence he has given you. You can't fall asleep at the wheel, only to wake up one day and realize that your job or your hobbies have no eternal value, but the souls of your children do. Some men will hear this and agree with it, but have no resolve to live it out. Instead, they will live for themselves, and waste the opportunity to leave a godly legacy for the next generation. But there are some men, who regardless of the mistakes we've made in the past, regardless of what our fathers did NOT do for us, will give the strength of our arms and the rest of our days to loving God with all that we are and to teach our children to do the same. And whenever possible to love and mentor others who have no father in their lives, but who desperately need help and direction. And we are inviting any man whose heart is willing and courageous, to join us in this resolution. In my home, the decision has already been made. You don't have to ask who will guide my family, because by God's grace, I will. You don't have to ask who will teach my son to follow Christ, because I will. Who will accept the responsibility of providing and protecting my family? I will. Who will ask God to break the chain of destructive patterns in my family's history? I will. Who will pray for, and bless my children to boldly pursue whatever God calls them to do? I am their father. I will. I accept this responsibility and it is my privilege to embrace it. I want the favor of God and his blessing on my home. Any good man does. So where are you men of courage? Where are you, fathers who fear the Lord? It's time to rise up and answer the call that God has given to you and to say I will. I will. I will! ~Courageous
This speech from Courageous Is something every man should look to and say “I want to be a man of courage.” not only saying that, but acting upon it. As a father, are you leading your kids to love and honor God? Are you stepping up to protect them from the evils of the devil? Are you stepping up and saying ‘I will!’?
I encourage that you meet with your buddy and discuss this day with him, discuss what being a father is, tell each other what you think it means. And if you have not watched this movie, maybe you could watch it with him.
Reading: Proverbs 22:6, 2 Timothy 3:15
Day #3 Your relationship with your wife helps your kids
Catherine Holt: Oh, Caleb, who takes care of this house? Me! Who washes all the clothes? Me! Who gets all the groceries? Me! Not to mention that I'm helping my parents every weekend! You know I've got all this pressure on me, and the only thing you ever do for anybody is for yourself!
Let’s take a look at this for a moment, your wife cooks meals, cleans the house, does your laundry, watches the kids, is a teacher (if your children are homeschooled) and supports you every single day. She may complain some, but, she puts so much into making the family come together. A lot of men have their wives help them do some work, which is alright, but, if you expect her to, that is downright selfish, she needs a brake too. And if she is doing your work and you are playing around on the internet, or hanging out with a buddy all the time, you are being rude, selfish and careless.
Michael Simmons: The sad part about it is, when most people promise for better or for worse, they really only mean for the better.
This is, sadly, way too common in marriage. Be sure your there for your wife through the worst.
Caleb Holt: You never assume I would do anything worthy of respect! Anything honorable!
Catherine Holt: Honorable? Honorable? What were you just looking at, Caleb? What was on that computer screen? Was that honorable? Who do you think you're fooling? Do you know why your sweet little gestures mean nothing to me? It's because that's the kind of man you've become. When you're alone, that's what you default to, and there is nothing honorable about it.
Parasites in your life will destroy your marriage, it can be something complex and horrible such as pornography, or it can be as simple as a hobby that is more important to you than family. Whatever it is, it needs to go, now.
Caleb Holt: You never leave your partner, especially in a fire!
Oh, how true this is! You can not leave your wife through anything! Weather you lost your job, or a loved one, or you are going through a tough time you must, must stick my your wives side through it all!
Read: Find a verse or two yourself, this is a wonderful way to dig into God’s Word!
While you were cheering the football team on, I was walking my horse non-stop giving time soothing words until his colic passed, then slept in his stall all night to make sure he was safe.