Originally Posted by bubba13
Any bit/hackamore, et cetera can cause pain if used incorrectly. The English hackamore would be less likely than even a snaffle bit to hurt the horse in inexperienced hands, though. You have to adjust it properly, though, and still harp on your daughter to control her temper and actions on the reins.
What exactly is the trainer doing that has you questioning her tactics?
Wellllllll where should I start?
She has that 'cowboy' attitude and is constantly yelling "show him who's boss" without really showing my dd how to assert herself. I think this is the crux of all of our problems (the lack of explaining how to get the results before being under saddle and panic ensues!)
The comment that turns my stomach: Oh your dd has natural talent, she'll be a high pointer with more training, etc meaning more money, false hopes, etc
* my dd has taken lessons from this popular trainer for a year and only when we got our own horse did we realize that she really didn't know the first thing about riding! The lesson horses were so push button that the rider didn't have to do anything except sit up straight and look pretty. Wow, talk about a recipe for disaster.
As I write I realize that I need to shop around for another trainer that I can trust. One that will teach 'horsemanship' first!