You and your horse are a cute pair, both a little bit redheaded.
I hope you will find a place that has a good atmosphere. The k;ind of barn where folks go around backbiting and sniping and gossiping and dissing; Who needs it? I would much rather have a scruffy run down place with good turn out for happy horses and easy going people, than the fancy place with the heated wash racks and lockers and indoor viewing areas on the lovely arena (although, don't get me wrong, I TOTALLY wish I had an indoor arena right now. but good relations with other boarders is important. Different barns have different "cultures". Hope you find a good one.
Your horse will be much happier to go in a plain snaffle instead of the Tom Thumb. It is better for you, too, as you develop your sensitivity to the rein and the release.
Post some photos, no?