Did I fail to mention we call this horse princess? She's outrageously particular--about EVERYTHING, and God forbid she get a bug bite! She won't eat an apple if it isn't sliced, she won't eat a treat if it isn't peppermint (they've sat in the corner of her stall over night, she's that picky!), and she won't eat grass if it's wet.
My daughter is pretty consistent with her hands unless she's in a new situation, then she tends to be a little too heavy. She's only 10 so we're working hard on that with our trainer. We have been around the block and back trying to figure out the tail swishing. We've had her massaged, we've sprayed for bugs, we've checked to see if she's cycling, we've double checked the saddle, the pad, the boots, taken off the spurs...when we change bits in the middle of a lesson when she's doing it, it quits.
My daughter is used to a horse that needs more contact, (we've had this mare for 3 months) and this mare prefers a little to no contact for riding. That's not always possible considering the disciplines she rides in. She's been working hard at staying off the horse's face, however she tends to need a lot of reminders. A bit switch every few rides seems to make them both a lot happier.
I should also mention that we are working with a trainer 2-3 times a week so I'm not winging it without an experienced person guiding me. This horse gets bored easy if she doesn't have variety in her training too. 2-3 days of rail work and she's a mess. We have added cow work in just to do something different, and reining is like a party for her. We try to go on at least 1 trail ride a week for a change of scenery. She LOVES the challenge trail course and arena trail classes. BUT if we do anything with her for 2-3 days in a row she's a hot mess. She is one of those horses that needs variety. We (my husband, the trainer and myself) sort of thought that her bit issue was a little like her personality and that she just needed to mix things up.
All of this said, she does it ALL with the best attitude, even when she's unhappy. Which is why we bought her for a 10 year old. She can do just about any western discipline well, and keeps a very level head, never spooks at anything, is always happy to see people and ADORES my daughter.