Originally Posted by luvs2ride1979
You're on the east coast. There are barns and trainers all over the place. You might have to drive farther, but you should be able to find a decent trainer. Or, maybe you can find just another horse owner who wants someone to ride with them or help exercise their horses. Just take your time and ask around. Talk to a good horse vet and farrier. They will know who takes good care of their horses and has a good reputation.
Don't be so ready to give up your search for a good barn or trainer. Ride with this person for now if you must, but keep looking for something, anything, better.
I have in the past. There isn't anything closer than an hour and a half. My parents have literally told me I cannot ride anywhere farther from where I currently do. I live in a suburban part of New Jersey as opposed to horse country, so the closest barn is 15 minutes away (but is terrible and refuse to speak of it in a positive light. It's WORSE than any of the things you say are bad here.) and the next closest barn is an hour away without traffic. One time it took me 2 and a half hours to get there. My parents also said they refuse to let me ride there again, especially since they treat everyone like babies. "Okay! Everyone remember how to trot? Kick with both legs and say TROT! That's good! Now remember to steer!" There is one other barn but its a show barn and really really expensive, and I believe you have to own a horse to ride there.
I have looked into it, I assure you. This is the only option for me. In fact, all people in my town who ride horses ride here, at the show stable (that's like 4 people) the terrible place or where I ride.
I'm just as worried as you are, I promise.