Originally Posted by nikyplushbreyer
ya I know all that I also have the right rider apparel me and my mom know quite a bit about this stuff I just need to find the right saddle
If you both 'know quite a bit about this stuff', then why are you asking complete newbie questions?
The type of apparel for hunter over fences is not
the same as that for cross country, nor is the apparel for cross country the same for that of 3 day eventing. If you want to do all 3 disciplines, you're going to need the proper apparel for each
It's fairly obvious you DON'T know a lot about horses or tack, yet you claim to at every opportunity when told to seek professional help.
Good luck with your endeavors. I won't be wasting any more of my time trying to help you in the future.