Thanks, everyone. I know he'll be a dipstick when we first start out, that's the way he is, and my husband gets annoyed and also embarrassed if we are with a group, so then he probably makes it worse. I was just wondering if the tongue relief would be more humane. Also, some guy at the Expo was telling us to never use two hands to stop a horse with a snaffle bc you can cut his tongue off. Whhhaaaattt? I have never heard that. Maybe we will try to borrow one before we buy, and I should also try riding him in a ring and see how he does with the current snaffle.