My TB is very fast, and we're working on several different speeds, including "less than mach speed" and "even MORE less than mach speed." So I do need to keep a steady hand on him. But, we do a give and take, so I'm not hanging on him. When he slows, I'm ready to give.
I think her complaint is that I am not "even" on the reins. And I'm probably not. I feel that I need to work hard, with leg esp, to bend him round the corners, etc. Even though he's doing 4th level dressage moves, I am constantly rebalancing him, so my reins probably aren't even all the time.
With rubberized reins and reins stops, would I necessarily be "even"?