I missed a ton this week... :0(
Aires: Your finger makes me go "yeeesh! Yow!" Poor finger! As for your insurance...I FEEL YOUR PAIN, LITERALLY! Our deductible is $10,000.00 (yes folks, ten THOUSAND DOLLARS) ANNUALLY. IT'S ALMOST enough to make you feel physically sick to think about, and I'm to have a hysterectomy this year if I want, much like those of you on the thread who also get (literally!) psychotically bad PMS, to live a "normal life" for more than two weeks out of every month...not a lot to ask is it? Apparently, "Blue Cross/Blue S#&t" thinks it's too much to ask! Here's my advice.
Go in the day of the scheduled procedure with one hundred dollars cash on you. Tell the surgical prep intake people: "I have one hundred dollars to my name which I can pay today, to you, as a 'good faith' payment towards my deductible any you can get me in, prepped, not royally piss off your surgeon and anesthesiologist, and let me work out the billing for the remainder with my ins company...or, you can send me home, screw up your schedule and take all that heat on yourself...you decide!"
Most of the time, the prep nurse will decide that she (or he) DOESN'T want all the headache, and will intelligently realize it's your issue to work out with the ins, and it's THEIR issue to get you into that OR. TRUST ME...NO ONE WANTS TO WORK ANOTHER FIVE MINUTES with an angry, irritated surgeon who assumes their "idiot nurse" didn't get their scheduled procedure going correctly. It can be miserable. Most surgical techs and prep nurses know to do ANYTHING THEY NEED TO to avoid the scenario!
Works about 90% of the time! (five friends have resorted to similar, had their surgeries, and that insurance company is gonna bill you no matter what...you decide what and WHEN you can pay!)...I realize it sounds immoral, but forcing a person to come up with a mortgage payment on a small mansion to have a NECESSARY, LIFE-REQUIRING SURGERY (s&@t, it's not like we're talking cosmetic surgery here! You NEED THIS PROCEDURE TO FUNCTION NORMALLY, DAMMIT!!) is immoral, so look at it as an eye for an eye!
I'm glad the horses, (Aires, your friend's horses, all at the barn) fared well despite that tragic fire...what a devastating thing...I'm TERRIFIED of fire...not exactly certain why, never had to experience one firsthand. I suppose it's the powerful nature of the thing...
To those discussing the whole " weight gain
vs birth control" options...a complicated one for sure!
Although my husband had already had a vasectomy when we met AND I'M infertile, I had to deal with same as a single person in my twenties...I'd say, if the wt. gain is truly upsetting you, unless you guys are the super-spontaneous, drop on the kitchen floor and go for it type, perhaps a diaphragm would be an option?? I smoke, sometimes only one or two cigs a day, sometimes I feel a carton won't cut it (Haha) thus the pill/hormonal IUD would be a no-go...but it sucks feeling heavy. When I was Very overweight during my year long terrible illness in 2002, I decided I was FINE WITH "me", regardless of size, & I was like, 70# overweight at ~5'1". Now however, after losing much of it (mine was also attributed to an awful med) and, it didn't help that I was eating nothing but chocolate day in day out (still shouldn't have mattered, as I was likely only taking in 1500 kcals/day, but the wrong sort of calories was the issue I believe! :0)
Anyway, as I was saying...having lost the weight, I do realize that being heavy, even if you are (& one should be!) fine with "you", @ any size...I find I have SO MUCH MORE energy thinner as I've aged! Being heavy as a young person I'd imagine would be physically not so tough, as with youth comes a ton of natural "pep", but it is my belief that at nearly forty, if I was still overweight, everything I do would be that much tougher...plus, I did notice psychologically feeling different during that few years. I'd always been quite thin growing up, and since, have been "average wt", & that feels "normal" to me...during that few year very overweight period, I think I truly felt...I dunno...more "aware" of my appearance? Thought I was perceived differently? So I get the thing about your friends being smaller and feeling "different"....I think, as I type this, that health wise and psychologically, perhaps making a different birth control choice IS THE BEST option!
Belly fat predisposes women to heart disease, diabetes, and a number of other really sucky things. Then, it's so hard to lose due to Cortisol and stress...if you have stress, (if!? Ha!) then you have too much Cortisol. Then, your body likes to pack the lbs onto the belly as a pre programmed response to Cortisol in your system. That is one tough hormone to fight! Yeah, final decision from the peanut gallery:change IUDs if possible.
I'VE GOT A MAJOR STORY FOR Y'ALL! Unfortunately, I'll have to come back to tell it...but I shall return! Missed you guys and your life-happenings this week as was soooo busy couldn't even READ HF. THAT is BUSY!!! Hahaha.....I'm in a WEIRD MOOD guys, sorry! :0)
Hugs and prayers to all! B2H
"I'm too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener"