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post #1301 of 4299 Old 08-17-2013, 08:42 AM
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I joined this thread late.

I turned 30 in May. I'm American, but live in Scotland with my English husband and American horse. I moved out here for a master's degree back in 2006 and elected to stay. I finished a PhD last year and was then unemployable, as we got married shortly after finishing said PhD and it took 8 months for the UK Border Agency to process my visa application which would make me legally able to work. I finally got that this past March but remain unemployable, as PhDs in historical geography are not at the top of anyone's list. :/ (there is a theme on this thread) While waiting on the visa, I got into some freelance horse training, but that's shrunk a bit now due to horses going lame, people not being able to afford lessons, blah, blah, blah, and I have discovered that I while I am good with horses, I am terrible at marketing and chasing up new clients.

Reading drafty's posts, however, makes me feel relieved that I am at least being mostly unemployed here, and not back in my home country. At least if I fall off my horse, get hit by a bus, or have to see a doctor for any other myriad of reasons, I am at least not totally screwed. Yay for the NHS.

On that note, drafty, my mother is a nurse practitioner at a non-profit clinic which offers full reproductive health services to low income women (who are unlikely to have insurance) on a sliding payment scale. Is there nothing like that where you live?
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I am a fan though, not a rabid one, but he is TALENTED, and an awesome writer.
I was pondering his lyrics two days ago, and realized...well....he is a bit MH, isnt he? Oddly, it makes me like him more. Fame and money dont solve anyones problems, any more than dieting myself super skinny did in jr high. It brings him a bit more down to earth for me....
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post #1303 of 4299 Old 08-18-2013, 12:32 AM
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I had a great day with the horses the past two days!! I'm looking forward to going shopping tomorrow. Also looking forward to my horsey time too.

Being horseless is the pits!!

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post #1304 of 4299 Old 08-18-2013, 10:22 PM
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Hey everyone, I'm new around here. Turning 30 in October but some days I feel much older! I'm a Navy wife, mother of 3 little humans, one demanding persian cat, one clingy domestic shorthair, a ferret, a Chihuahua, a boxer, and my grumpy little mare. I grew up on ranches in Montana, Wyoming, Colorado, and Oklahoma. I've been away from horses for about 13 years now and just bought my 6 year old mare a couple months ago. I stumbled across this forum googling different cinch styles LOL looking forward to getting to know everyone!
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post #1305 of 4299 Old 08-18-2013, 10:35 PM Thread Starter
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Welcome, thesilverspear and RagingRainicorn!!

Silverspear, there's a free pregnancy clinic (the one I went to) and the county clinic (which is a pain to get into usually). The free pregnancy clinic can only do pee tests and will only do two per month (I can go back in seven to ten days to redo the test, if I want). I don't know about the county clinic, to be honest.

I'll tell you what, though. I don't normally remember my dreams (when I do dream...I tend to be a light sleeper and don't get much REM sleep), but in the past week I've had two pregnancy-related dreams. The first one, I was standing in a bathtub at my doctor's office and my best friend was in the room with me, when one of the nurses came in and said "Yeah, so, you're pregnant" and then left. This was before I even started thinking that I might be pregnant. The one last night was just weird, but was definitely pregnancy-related (I was pregnant and I was getting pissed off cuz I had milk leaking/dripping from my breasts and Cosmo and Jasper wouldn't leave me alone lol).
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post #1306 of 4299 Old 08-18-2013, 10:57 PM
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post #1307 of 4299 Old 08-19-2013, 12:52 AM
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• Horses: 0 an old L&D RN (meaning both "long ago" & actually "old", haha!) I was thinking about false pregnancies and tumors which will grow in the uterus and mimic a pregnancy down to growth rate in cms measuring around the abdomen; hormonal (HcG) output, though often put out enough HcG to turn a urine test "+", they often will only light up a blood test.

It is for this reason that practitioners do not positively quantify a woman as pregnant until we see a few things (positive pregnancy predictors) including a cervical exam with bluing noted on the cervix, positive fetal movement on ultrasound, & + FETAL HR, at a highly variable rate from the mother's, (maternal hr is simple enough to get confused with fetal hr, despite the fact that Mom's usually runs about 90, tops, and baby's @ fetal stages should run in the 140-150 range...a nervous mom can jack her own hr safely up to 125+, which is considered a bit low for a fetus in early gestation but still safe!).

You HAVE TO KNOW WHAT IS "up" with your body and fast...these tumors I am describing, sorry to be blunt, but...they are, or can be DEADLY. YOU HAVE TO KNOW IF YOU ARE DEALING WITH ONE SO IT CAN BE REMOVED.


The best part is, looking at your income, they will see you MORE THAN QUALIFY for AHCCCS, and you will be signed up, preliminarily, right in the ER!
They will, at the ER, do, a vaginal U/S, and if what they see in you is NOT A BABY, they SHOULD schedule you for FAIRLY EMERGENCY surgery and pay for it through AHCCCS. There WILL BE PARTIAL PAYMENT BILLS, BUT THOSE COME LATER AFTER YOU ARE WELL, and you can make payment plans with them.

****WHAT I'M SAYING PAIGE IS THIS: Do not allow $$, or lack of it, to determine the end of your life! There are WAYS to get things done and pay later, and it's time you put YOU FIRST, because it ain't looking like anyone else in you're life is putting you to the front of that line. If I lived by you, I'd tell you to put on your best "I'm in pain" face drive your a&& to an ER, walk you in and tell the triage RN, "my friend is POSSIBLY about three months pregnant, has gotten no pre natal care as she has no insurance, and has had NEG urine preg tests. She's had all of the same signs as with her prior pregnancy with her son, except now, she can barely get through her day she is so exhausted. She needs to be seen!"

Once they do a pee test (1st thing they'll do), when it's neg, they'll possibly try to tell you you're having a stillborn and send you home with the whole "let nature take it's course" B S. Tell them you are NOT HAVING ANY CRAMPING PAIN, and that've been pregnant before and that pregnancy was nothing like this. Tell them your abdomen has grown in size, that you've had all of the other signs you HAVE HAD, and try to obtain an ultrasound. IF THEY STILL TRY TO SEND YOU AWAY TO SOME CLINIC WHERE YOU HAVE TO PAY TO BE SEEN, tell them straight up that you will not be able to go as you have NO MONEY. AT ALL. AND, IF THEY DO NOT SEE YOU TONIGHT, and you have a stillborn that is not confirmed or a uterine tumor that is not confirmed, that is negligence. Then, please drop to the MD who sees you that you have an attorney in the family..."My uncle Josh is a medical malpractice attorney, and he lives in Phoenix, and HE WAS the one who told me to get myself into the ER TONIGHT and let him know what you guys found out. He's going to be SO MAD nothing was done, I'm almost afraid to even call him when I get home!"...sort of deal!! Just don't hold back. You get my drift? Yes, I know lying is WRONG AND SUCKS, BUT SO DOES DYING, GIRL!!!

Sadly, for those of us without millions of dollars laying around in this day and age, we have to play a "bit" dirty if we are going to protect our lives!! If the ER has no problem sending YOU HOME SCARED and without answers, turn about is fair play...send the doctor away scared that your Uncle Josh in Phx may just be sending him a subpoena to testify down the line as to why he didn't provide you with @ least the BASIC standard of care!!

I just pray you can get yourself some care because, sadly, anymore the ER is about the ONLY place that legally cannot turn you away outright for inability to pay immediately...

Hugs and prayers to you. I hope I haven't angered anyone as I write this with such fierceness, but it's because I truly believe you may have this false pregnancy tumor, or some other really tough medical situation which could be life threatening, and you deserve better than to LOOSE YOUR LIFE over a few thousand dollars!!! You are a good woman and take care of everyone and everything except YOU...AND THAT, my dear, in my opinion, really must change!


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Hi All! New here too. I'm 38 , live in Western Australia and am fairly new to horses and this forum. Love reading all the posts and have learnt so much...

Drafty, I read your earlier posts and just wanted to add another angle. Have you had your thyroid checked? I have an autoimmune disease causing hypothyroid and some of your symptoms fit with how I was before I got diagnosed. Feeling very narky and irritable, weird periods, really hungry, soooooo tired I'd nod off all day, bloating around the abdomen along with weight gain... I also had very dry skin, periods of depression, my hair got a lot thinner etc Just a thought, you might like to look into it if you aren't pregnant. Sure hope you can get an answer soon, it must be so stressful!
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post #1309 of 4299 Old 08-19-2013, 01:47 PM Thread Starter
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Welcome, VickiRose! I'd love to visit Australia some day.

I had everything checked back in March/April of this year. Everything was normal, aside from being barely borderline diabetic and having gallstones. I did have a chocolate cyst on my left ovary, but that wasn't a big deal, according to my doctor (she's a women's health practitioner).

My problem is, it's literally been a decade since I was pregnant last and my pregnancy wasn't "typical," so I don't know or remember how it felt (I got pregnant in May of 2003, but didn't find out until the beginning of July, and my pregnancy was ridiculously easy, aside from the ridiculous morning sickness for the first month and a half after I found out I was pregnant).

I think I'm going to stop by the county clinic today and see if they can help me. Right now I'm making $219 a week on unemployment.

B2H, I don't qualify for AHCCCS. I tried for it when I applied for food stamps last week (qualified for those easily enough lol).
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I hope you get it straightened out! That sounds awful, your health is nothing to mess with. it's still too wet to ride safely here so I went to the tack store for some retail therapy!
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