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        03-21-2014, 03:27 PM
      #1641
    Weanling
    What a great thing for your BF to have done Drafty! I admit I'm pretty envious of people who have awesome boyfriends.

    Unfortunately my BF situation isn't going so great, and I might be back on the dating market before too long. We live 3 hours apart and he owns his own business, and has been working 18+ hour days the majority of the past 5 months for a huge project that's been going on. He's a one-man show so everything that goes wrong rests squarely on his shoulders. So basically...that means we haven't seen one another in 5 months

    I've suggested I come up to see him- 3 hours is nothing. But that idea gets a "Yeah that might work" and never spoken of again. He can find the time to go out with his family and spend time at their houses, or do other things, but apparently not the time for me to come up for a weekend or even an overnight.

    Everyone I know thinks I should just move on at this point, and I'm starting to agree with them. Just...mixed signals ahoy. We're both divorcees, and he's admitted to being gunshy. But I'm tending to believe "gunshyness" is just another descriptor for "He's just not that into you".
         
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        03-21-2014, 04:06 PM
      #1642
    Started
    My saddle arrived!!! I ADORE it. Too bad I can't try it out in my work cubicle.
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        03-21-2014, 05:06 PM
      #1643
    Started
    Well, I've had an exhausting week; moved my horse to another barn after discovering some serious safety issues at my old barn (among a laundry list of other little annoyances that added up to me leaving). I didn't tell the BO until 20 minutes before the trailer showed up; so we didn't exactly leave on the best of terms. I hate confrontation, but the momma bear came out in me that day.

    The new place is awesome! 3 arenas, one of which is an indoor. Of course it costs more than double of what I paid at the old place. My husband was surprisingly supportive...he says things like..."I'm happy for you"..."you will be able to progress more here"..."you don't have to worry for her safety here"....who is this man? He's made a complete 180. Last year at this time we almost got divorced because I told him I was going to start a savings account to buy a horse and he said "absolutely not!"

    So I'm in horse heaven right now; all I need now is a perfectly fitting saddle. I'm going to try a wither tracing over the weekend; I'm not exactly a crafty person so wish me luck!

    Drafty - that is awesome. It's good to be supported, isn't it?
    Cynical - glad you found a saddle that works.
    Mulefeather - sometimes all you can do is move on.
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        03-22-2014, 12:59 AM
      #1644
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    Originally Posted by Mulefeather    
    What a great thing for your BF to have done Drafty! I admit I'm pretty envious of people who have awesome boyfriends.

    Unfortunately my BF situation isn't going so great, and I might be back on the dating market before too long. We live 3 hours apart and he owns his own business, and has been working 18+ hour days the majority of the past 5 months for a huge project that's been going on. He's a one-man show so everything that goes wrong rests squarely on his shoulders. So basically...that means we haven't seen one another in 5 months

    I've suggested I come up to see him- 3 hours is nothing. But that idea gets a "Yeah that might work" and never spoken of again. He can find the time to go out with his family and spend time at their houses, or do other things, but apparently not the time for me to come up for a weekend or even an overnight.

    Everyone I know thinks I should just move on at this point, and I'm starting to agree with them. Just...mixed signals ahoy. We're both divorcees, and he's admitted to being gunshy. But I'm tending to believe "gunshyness" is just another descriptor for "He's just not that into you".
    Not to be a wet blanket, and from a male point of view. If I was trying to date a women that fits the scenario you have outlined, I'd be moving on.
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        03-22-2014, 11:43 PM
      #1645
    Weanling
    Mule as a man if I hadn't seen the lady I was with in five months I would be dying from a male put of view sounds like to he is either seeing someone else or is gay lol if I were you I would move on
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        03-22-2014, 11:54 PM
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    Mule as a man if I hadn't seen the lady I was with in five months I would be dying from a male put of view sounds like to he is either seeing someone else or is gay lol if I were you I would move on
    True that. Before I met my husband, I briefly dated a guy who had a lot of excuses or would just suddenly drop off the face of the planet. It turned out, he wasn't sure if he liked women or men. Time to move on...
         
        03-23-2014, 12:42 PM
      #1647
    Showing
    I got a new saddle yesterday! Robert and I were out yard saling and we happened to stop by this one that had four saddles for sale. As we were looking at them, I asked one of the girls running the sale what size a particular saddle was, as it looked big enough for me and Aires. The girl didn't know anything about the saddle, so she called her mom over. Turns out, she went to high school with Robert and remembers him!

    So we start talking about the saddle and she said it was a 17" (size I need for my big butt) and FQHB (size Aires needs for his big ol' shoulders)! It's a lovely chocolate brown with silver lacing on the pommel and cantle. It needs new stirrups (pair on it are plastic), a good oiling and a new cinch (one with it isn't nearly big enough for the monster), but other than that, it's in fantastic shape. Best part is that it's super light, but still real leather. And it was only $150!!

    The lady is going to hold it for me until next pay day because I was out of money from this check. Hopefully I can get some things sold and I won't have to use any money from my check.
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        03-23-2014, 11:27 PM
      #1648
    Weanling
    Bargain! Well spotted Drafty!
         
        03-23-2014, 11:38 PM
      #1649
    Foal
    I'm old enough to join the 30-somethings now! My daughters are getting ready to start riding again this year at a different stable (their previous instructor was too busy with prepping for shows to give them lessons right now). The 6 year old has one year of very basic western riding under her belt and the 5 year old has nothing but helping the older girls groom their horses :)

    I'm excited for them! We will see if the younger daughter gets the horse fever like her sister.
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        03-24-2014, 07:56 AM
      #1650
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    Welcome Andieve! The joys of being a horsey Mom - they spend more time in the saddle then we do!

    Drafty - About darn time Robert treated you with something. You do far to much for him and it's nice that he is showing a bit of appreciation. Also well done on the new saddle! Pics please!

    Mule - I can't tell you what to do, it's a personal decision which involved strong feelings and emotions... BUT nobody deserves to be left to the side for 5 months. I'd close the door on that one and walk away... or at least stop contacting him and see how long it takes him to come lookin for you. If you don't hear from him in several days - you know where you stand.

    Nothing new here ladies. I had my first day off after 13 days working last night... well that's if you exclude the fact that I was working til 4:30am.... but after that I had the rest of the day off! Yay! Took DD and DS to a birthday party in a kiddie centre. Didn't even see my horses this weekend, DH took care of them for me. As much as he says he doesn't like them, he's taken to mucking out, feeding, haying, ect and randomly sends me texts at work to let me know he has them taken care of. DD's BF has brought her pony home from the riding school, and lives less than 1/2 a mile from where we keep the horses so they will be able to ride together now that the evenings are getting brighter.

    I noticed Bandit had lost a bit of condition last weekend.. I've upped his feed, and gave him another wormer. The BO is turning out his broodmare with my two now... there is no grass left and I've been haying my two in the field. I just don't know when he turns his mare out to them, or if he throws her some hay - so I'm thinking he is getting bullied. Bandit tends to just drop weight every now and then, but it's normally when the farmers are baling.. which my vet has chalked up to allergies, incl a disgusting snotty nose for about 6 weeks! I'm happy haying my two, but I don't particularly want to be haying his mare as well! I buy good quality haylage for mine, and can't afford to be throwing it away on another horse.

    First show of the year is now only 2 months away... how on earth am I going to get time?!
         

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