The first cesarian was a emergency one. She wasn't stressed, but she was STUCK and not going to move, and it had been almost 12 hours, so they just went ahead and took her. The best part about the second was I got to set the date. I got up in the AM, took my stuff, went in, and an hour later, I was in recovery. The second time I was also a guinea pig for a new pain med at the time (bonus of having a paramedic as a hubby, we get all the coolest new stuff, lmao). It was awesome. I was alert, talking, hanging out, not hurting at all. Its a shame I couldn't stay on it through the recovery. I don't even remember the first whole day after my first was born because I was so doped up on morphine. Not quite how I planned it.
Stress is the worst thing ever for conceiving (and sex drive too), they say. Makes it tough though, if it doesn't happen right away. You stress, it makes it harder, so you stress more, and on and on it goes. I wish you both luck!
"Keep a leg on each side and your mind in the middle"