Drafty, please thank him for his service. Edit to add - and Demon.
Demon, I am often stressed. I tend to take the weight of the world on my shoulders, and get stressed out. I have kids facing jail if they don't improve, and I take that as being my responsibility. And partly my fault when and if they go.
Negative coping - I smoke and drink more than I should.
Positive - I try to get me time. Me time doesn't have to be productive, it can be turning my phone off and sleeping in, or it can be time with Lucas.
With the kids I tend to live with long term stress, and so I just suck it up, that's made easier by making tasks smaller. For example kid right now has til the 25th to clean up or go to detention. Rather than viewing it as 2 weeks, I do it on a day by day basis.
A friend told me about the power of 'now' you deal with each now rather than the long term view - and before you know you are sucking it up and dealing with it.
Alex, I have the absolute utmost respect for folks taking on foster children (this is your situation, as I understand it?) Especially in this tremendously challenging day and time...everything is tougher, especially life with kids!
Coping with that kind of stress is very difficult. I find I have trouble coping with my life and feeling that just the small daily demands often feel so overwhelming that I'm not sure how to best tackle them. I have a learning disabled step son who also has some minor mental health issues. He has come a TREMENDOUS WAY since my husband and I have had FULL-CUSTODY with very limited visitation with his mom (DH's ex wife) because she has significant problems and he needs a very relaxed, open (communication), loving, and structured environment. He also literally worships his dad, my husband, so we are very lucky that he has chosen dad as his "role model" & not the thug kids at the inner-city-type public school he attends!
He's also the biggest hearted boy you can know, and just wants to do everything "right", so when shown the right path, he very happily chooses it...He has had a challenging life however, and when, due to the ridiculous court system, we had to share custody 50/50, he was miserable. I'd love to hear more about how you manage to turn these kids around, especially in a matter of such short time frames. Your effort is to be commended and honestly, it would be wonderful if more people made the kids of today a priority in their lives, even if it just involved being a mentor if unable to foster. You are clearly a unique and special person!
Drafty, that cat is SO cute...and I'm not a cat person anymore, but had an orange tabby like yours...they have some of the best personalities!! He's soooo funny with the cone on...glad the neuter went well!! :0)
Thank you to all of those who served/serve now...I respect our service men and women of all branches of the armed forces and our veterans enormously, always have, even prior to marrying one. DH served in Dessert Storm, prior and after, as a member of the Army's 82nd Airborne 2/505th infantry unit...he was an amazing troop. His time "in" really shaped the rest of his life and who he is as a man today. The military turns out amazing men and women, generally speaking.
Loving all the pics, of everything, guys...keep Em coming!! Okay all...sweet dreams!! :0)