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    02-17-2009, 12:27 AM
  #1
Foal
afraid to ride

two years ago I had a bad riding accident that left me mentally scared to ride my mare.after a break my three trusty friends got me back on a horse- one leading and one either side holding my legs.i cried for all of the half hour that I was on his back.i eventually brought a bomb proof appaloosa that as been an absolute gem at getting me back riding.my problem is I still have a deep rooted fear of cantering and doing anything new with my horse mr bear.anyone been though this and knows how to overcome this paralysing fear that takes over me.open to all suggestions as horses are my passion and I want to get though this.
     
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    02-17-2009, 02:22 PM
  #2
Foal
I know exactly how you feel. I had a bad riding accident a year and a half ago that ended up in broken bones & surgery, and my confidence was just as broken. I'm still struggling with my confidence.
And good for you that you want to get over it! Lots of people won't even admit they have a fear in the first place.
I know it's hard to hear, but honestly, the best thing you can do is just do it.
If you've learned to trust your horse at the walk and the trot, then good for you. :)
If you're comfortable with it, let a friend or a trainer get on your horse, and just watch them canter your horse around. Seeing them be safe up there, and watching your horse behave might help you to realize that he won't hurt you, and that you'll be fine.
See if you can get an instructor or a friend to put you and your horse on the lunge line. Ty cantering on the lungeline first. That way, if you don't feel safe, someone else has control over the horse as well, so that you can just focus on yourself. You just have to learn to trust your horse, and most importantly, trust yourself! You're a good rider, and you can do this. You're very capable of it, even if you think your mind is stoppping you.
     
    02-17-2009, 03:14 PM
  #3
Foal
I know how scared you are. In may my mom,me, my instructor, and my best friend were riding out. We approached a field and the horse mom was riding suddenly broke into a gallop, spun around and bucked about 5 time menicanly. It took off after my mom fell off. Then on top of it my instructor left to get the ambulance and lefty me and my friend alone with my almost unconcious mom. When the ambulance came and picked her up, they asked me tons of questions about her. After I rode back, we headed straight to the hospital. We found out that she had broken her back, and was super close to being paralized.... But now she is back to herself, but I will always have the memory of her falling off of that horse... And yes her and me both are still riding, but only western- she got over her fear and if you put your mind to it you will too!
     
    02-17-2009, 03:17 PM
  #4
Foal
I am in the same situation I am interested to hear how everyone overcomes. I had a bad fall and I will walk and trop but I get so scared to canter. I did start with lessons again and it has really helped so much.
     
    02-17-2009, 10:28 PM
  #5
Green Broke
I deal with confidence and fear every time I lead my horse out of the round pen. It is something I have on my mind 75% of the time, and I know that transfers to my horse.

The best advice I can give is:

Just Do It.
     
    02-18-2009, 12:19 AM
  #6
Foal
Thanks guys I felt like as was on my own with these thoughts makes me feel better that there is more girls out there struggling with fear.The old saying theres nothing to fear but fear itself makes sense here!
     
    02-18-2009, 01:49 AM
  #7
Foal
One of the biggest things that I had to work on myself with after being thrown off a few times from my big guy - I had to teach myself to stay calm. I know that when I feel tense and nervous, my horse feels it and will make him tense as well.

It took me a while, but I had to keep just telling myself to breath and relax, breath and relax. I made sure to stay within where I felt comfortable and not push myself too far and too fast. Just baby steps, but still trying to move forward.

I also moved to a farm where I was able to take dressage lessons. The instructor there really helped me train my horse so he was very well behaved and helped me work on my position, balance, confidence, etc.

I will admit, there are occasions when something scares my horse and he tenses (he hates cows!!! ) and I have to just tell myself to trust him, stay calm, breath and relax. When I stay calm, he stays calm and all is well. But, we still don't go past the cows - I have decided to just leave that one alone.

I will say though - I will now ride this horse bareback with just a lead rope for a "bridle". We have come a long way - and so can you.

Just remember - breath and relax, breath and relax.
     
    02-18-2009, 11:33 AM
  #8
Green Broke
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Originally Posted by qtina626    
One of the biggest things that I had to work on myself with after being thrown off a few times from my big guy - I had to teach myself to stay calm. I know that when I feel tense and nervous, my horse feels it and will make him tense as well.

It took me a while, but I had to keep just telling myself to breath and relax, breath and relax. I made sure to stay within where I felt comfortable and not push myself too far and too fast. Just baby steps, but still trying to move forward.

I also moved to a farm where I was able to take dressage lessons. The instructor there really helped me train my horse so he was very well behaved and helped me work on my position, balance, confidence, etc.

I will admit, there are occasions when something scares my horse and he tenses (he hates cows!!! ) and I have to just tell myself to trust him, stay calm, breath and relax. When I stay calm, he stays calm and all is well. But, we still don't go past the cows - I have decided to just leave that one alone.

I will say though - I will now ride this horse bareback with just a lead rope for a "bridle". We have come a long way - and so can you.

Just remember - breath and relax, breath and relax.
Great advice. After my accident with Walka, I couldn't believe how terrified I was. With the help of friends and stubborn determination, I found my way back.

Breathing is definitely the key!

Qtina626, had the same issue with T and cows! Because we are in dairy farm country, had to fix it. Took her to a team penning practice. After a few hours we did so well we were invited to join the team for a competition! Might be worth a try.
     
    02-18-2009, 01:04 PM
  #9
Showing
Quote:
Originally Posted by Moxie    
I deal with confidence and fear every time I lead my horse out of the round pen. It is something I have on my mind 75% of the time, and I know that transfers to my horse.

The best advice I can give is:

Just Do It.
Simple but true. I too had a bad fall that resulted in broken bones, time off the horse and fear to get back on. I just had to do it. The first few months I was afraid to go beyond a walk, cross a creek go up or down hills, walk through mud. Just anything that would cause my horse to lose her footing. Funny thing was I fell off on flat ground and it was caused by me losing my balance not any fault of my horse.
It gets better every day. The best thing you can do is "just do it" spend as much time in the saddle as you possibly can. Time is the only thing that will help. I promise, it does get better
     
    02-18-2009, 03:17 PM
  #10
Foal
Quote:
Originally Posted by Walkamile    
Great advice. After my accident with Walka, I couldn't believe how terrified I was. With the help of friends and stubborn determination, I found my way back.

Breathing is definitely the key!

Qtina626, had the same issue with T and cows! Because we are in dairy farm country, had to fix it. Took her to a team penning practice. After a few hours we did so well we were invited to join the team for a competition! Might be worth a try.

Thanks for the advice - but could you see my big grey dressage horse at a team penning??? That would be funny - especially since I don't have a western saddle - but aside from that, this is my horse with a hind leg injury that left him mildly lame. He can only be ridden at a walk and a very light trot - although he runs around the pasture like nothing is wrong.

As soon as I can move (if I could ever sell my house in this market) - there probably won't be any more cows so I have decided not to worry too much about it. I have walked him over to stand by the cows and he does OK, until they turn and stare at him - then he gets nervous. The funny thing is - he is TB and there are 2 other horses with TB in them and all of them are afraid of the cows???? But, they only seem to care if the cows are staring at them. Anyone know why this is?
     

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