One of the biggest things that I had to work on myself with after being thrown off a few times from my big guy - I had to teach myself to stay calm. I know that when I feel tense and nervous, my horse feels it and will make him tense as well.
It took me a while, but I had to keep just telling myself to breath and relax, breath and relax. I made sure to stay within where I felt comfortable and not push myself too far and too fast. Just baby steps, but still trying to move forward.
I also moved to a farm where I was able to take dressage lessons. The instructor there really helped me train my horse so he was very well behaved and helped me work on my position, balance, confidence, etc.
I will admit, there are occasions when something scares my horse and he tenses (he hates cows!!!
) and I have to just tell myself to trust him, stay calm, breath and relax. When I stay calm, he stays calm and all is well. But, we still don't go past the cows
- I have decided to just leave that one alone.
I will say though - I will now ride this horse bareback with just a lead rope for a "bridle". We have come a long way - and so can you.
Just remember - breath and relax, breath and relax.