After buying a horse, is it normal for the seller to want nothing to do with you? - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 49 Old 07-08-2010, 09:05 PM Thread Starter
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After buying a horse, is it normal for the seller to want nothing to do with you?

We just bought warmblood gelding named Eragon. He's the perfect fit, has great ground manners, I love him to death already!

because I wasn't sure exactly what kind of bridle/bit to look for at the tack shop and what size his bit was supposed to be, I emailed the previous owner asking what kind of bit and what size she used for Eragon as well as what size bridle he used. Instead another lady emailed me back saying that the previous owner just sent my email to her and that I shouldn't be asking the previous owner any questions (????) She did tell me Eragon uses a loose snaffle and a pelham. She was the only one who could take 30 seconds to type that. And my trainer later told me the previous owner called her and scolded her for telling me to contact her. Which she didn't, it was my idea, so I felt worse.

Am I crazy to think that the previous owner might happen to know the fricken kind of bridle and bit she used on HER horse?

/rant lol for now. This is our first horse,so i feel like the last thing we need is to be shunned for asking simple questions, especially since my mom and I are running around trying to figure everything out(Note he is being boarded, so hay twice a day, automatic waterers,turn out, and mucking are covered, so technically his basic needs are being covered)

I still had a couple more questions, like if he had previously been on pelleted feed or grain, as I was going to start him on some as he needs to gain 150-200 lbs according to the vet. but I guess I won't bother asking because god forbid I don't know every last detail about a horse I've known for 3 weeks.

ok im really ending my rant now, lol.

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post #2 of 49 Old 07-08-2010, 09:18 PM
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Honestly when a previous owner wants no more contact alarm bells start to sound.

I encourage people to keep me up dated with progress, ask questions and send a happy snap or 2. I want to know how they are doing, and it makes me happy to know the horse I sold them is bringing them joy.

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Most people that I have bought horses from want nothing to do with them after selling. The girl what we bought our gelding from made a huge deal about e-mailing her every once in a while to tell her how the horse is doing, how much she loved this horse and broke her heart to sell him. So I e-mail her to update her, and do you think I ever heard back from her? Ha yea right, she was just all show, she wanted nothing do with the horse. I still have contact with a woman that I sold an arabian to 12 years ago, she sends me pictures of him once a year. In fact, she gave him to a little girl about 2 years ago. And I am still getting pictures and updates on him from her that she gets from the current owners haha.
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Originally Posted by SilverSpur View Post
Honestly when a previous owner wants no more contact alarm bells start to sound.

I encourage people to keep me up dated with progress, ask questions and send a happy snap or 2. I want to know how they are doing, and it makes me happy to know the horse I sold them is bringing them joy.

Oh also he had a vet check. The one problem he had was an injury that looked like it was fully healed, nevertheless the price got knocked down, and we have 10 more payments left(since the price was still insane, w/the price drop), so perhaps they are pissed about that.

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post #5 of 49 Old 07-08-2010, 09:30 PM
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The reason really could be anything. My nastier side wonders if the previous owner lied about something or another. My nicer side says they are done with that part of their life and want to go on. You will know as time goes on and you and your horse build a relationship.
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post #6 of 49 Old 07-08-2010, 09:32 PM
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Oh my gosh that is crazy! I still talk to most of the people that I sold horses to. Heck, I have a good portion of them on my facebook. I couldn't imagine selling a horse and not knowing whether he went to a good home or not. The only thing I worry about is if the horse or person were to get hurt from lack of knowledge. I still want to know though so that if there is a way I can help I can do so.
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post #7 of 49 Old 07-08-2010, 09:41 PM
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I LOVE communication with buyers after I sell a horse. It's insane to me that she wouldn't have told you about diet/equipment.
I guess you learned a lesson, though...ask LOTS of questions before you buy!

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post #8 of 49 Old 07-08-2010, 09:43 PM
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All of my horses but 2 came from either relatives[very distant, and they were abusive] or the sale of the 2 was born at our house and the other one came from a very nice lady who i text sometimes and we talk about the mare. I think its insane for a PO to act like that.
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post #9 of 49 Old 07-08-2010, 10:08 PM
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I'm in contact with the girl who sold me Molly. She texts me every now and then to see how she's doing. The guy who I bought my Paso gelding from used to come on trail rides at our place.

That she won't contact you sounds very alarming. Ask her what you need to know, and don't be afraid to get in her face and make sure she tells you exactly what you need to know. I would be fuming.
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post #10 of 49 Old 07-09-2010, 12:36 AM
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That is ridiculous! I agree with others above, alarm bells should be sounding. I receive pictures from the people who purchased my old horse, and heck, we are even going to visit him this summer! I loved that horse to DEATH and didn't want to sell him, but I outgrew him (both physically and mentally) and I had to. The old owner of my horse now comes to watch me at shows and loves it when she hears from me how he's doing. I would ALWAYS want people to ask me something about the horse I sold them so that I would know that they knew what was going on. I would call the lady with a list of questions and ask them. It is for the welfare of the horse.
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