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    07-09-2010, 11:18 AM
I can also see both sides of things. You don't know what her relationship with the horse was. Maybe she loved him to pieces and is so depressed about his sale that she wants nothing to do with you. Maybe he annoyed her half to death and she's glad to be rid of him.

In any case, your trainer is the best person to ask about those things mostly... and I agree that just because the previous owner used a certain bit does not make it the right bit. I always like to start simple with a three link snaffle and then progress to stronger bits as necessary (and it has to be really necessary).
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    07-09-2010, 12:51 PM
I don't find that "crazy" at all. If the owner adored the horse, it's possible that knowing they sold the horse, it's easier for them to detach themselves if they hear nothing from then on. Now that the horse is a new owner's hands, they know they now have no control over his/her fate, so its easier to ask to hear for no information.

Plus its possible they might have been stalked by a buyer in the past which in their case, I would also ask to have nothing to do with the new owner.

One situation I have seen happen to is that horse might some issues that you just don't know about yet-and she knows it might cause some issues, it which case she wants no contact with anyone. Something that sucks for the buyer, but it unfortunately is now your problem(the problem with the horse business...not everyone is honest).

Asking for no info or contact is a lot more common.
    07-09-2010, 02:43 PM
When my trainer sells a horse she always gives them a bridal to go with them. Just to make sure the horse is being worked properly. (:

I can see how you may be frustrated, but like everyone else said, those are simple questions and questions you should of asked before! (:
    07-09-2010, 03:19 PM
Originally Posted by Speed Racer    
OP, those questions really are something that should have been asked at the time of purchase. However, I do understand that you're new to horses and might not have thought of it at the time.

I don't know how the transaction was accomplished but if the animal was bought through negotiations between people other than the previous owner, then your contacting them may seem annoying.

Since this is a high dollar animal I'm going to presume that the horse was sold through a sale barn or broker. If that's wrong, please correct me.

Not everyone has 'warm and fuzzies' for the horses they've sold. It's not right or wrong, it just is.

I actually didn't know my parents bought the horse until a week post. I thought it'd be another 3 weeks.

And yes I'm pretty sure he went through a sale/donation type thing. I didn't get totally clear information.

It was one simple email so I am still a bit in shock. IDK. Lol, I just feel a little offended they couldn't do a better job hiding the fact that they woke up on some crappy side of the bed that morning.
    07-09-2010, 03:35 PM
Okay, so the sale was brokered, which means the owner provided the horse to be sold, and nothing more.

Could this person have been a little less snarky to you? Yes, they could. But since you e-mailed them out of the blue with no prior contact, I'm not sure what you expected of them.

People use brokers and sale barns so they don't have to be involved with the buyers. Besides that fact you're a minor, and any questions should have been fielded by the adults involved in the transaction.

I'd be a little annoyed too if some youngster with whom I'd never had any contact started e-mailing me, asking me questions about a horse I'd sold through a brokerage. You're a stranger to them. They don't owe you anything.
    07-09-2010, 03:35 PM
My mom has been trying to catch my trainer and she just wants to have a sit down and pour out all her questions and concerns but

My trainer is so busy with hacking her student's horses when they aren't there, managemiing lessons, etc etc, that we haven't been able to catch her and are starting to get kind of frustrated.

Luckily we were able to get out of them what his hacking schedule would be(how many days a week my trainer can school my horse since I can only get to the barn so many times weekly, like 3-4 days per week). But we still haven't been able to pin them down to ask them about his grain/pellet regime, etc.

So, We still haven't had that 1 on 1 time with my trainer that we need to just clear everything up.

To email them I clicked his profile and clicked, "Contact the seller. If the owner C.B.B with us, why does this link go to her email and not the person that's supposed to be selling him.??
    07-09-2010, 03:38 PM
Well then, don't worry about his feeding regimen. You'll be able to figure that out on your own.

Besides, it's an ever changing thing depending on weather, weight of the animal, and what kind of exercise he's being asked to do.

My feeding regimen changes with the seasons.
    07-09-2010, 03:38 PM
I am guessing you trainer is feeding the horse something and your trainer probably has a pretty good idea of what to feed the horse.

How did you buy your horse thru a trainer that you can not get in touch with? Why not just go to the barn and talk to them?
    07-09-2010, 03:47 PM
Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind    
I am guessing you trainer is feeding the horse something and your trainer probably has a pretty good idea of what to feed the horse.

How did you buy your horse thru a trainer that you can not get in touch with? Why not just go to the barn and talk to them?

Well said. I know your parents bought the horse for you, and I am sure hoping the trainer was involved in that purchase. I would also guess that since you have now had the horse for 3 weeks, someone has figured out what to feed him. If your trainer will be working your horse I would venture a guess he probably knows what bridle and bit he will start with too.

Have you even ridden this horse yet? Do you have lessons set up on him? If so that is a great time to ask your questions. You are then also paying him, and it is on your nickel so to speak.

Most trainers I know can talk and ride at the same time, or in between lessons or rides at the very least. Just a thought.
    07-09-2010, 04:14 PM
I have a big mouth, I already replied but I have to agree with my 2 geldings. I raised a colt from 4 mos to 3 yrs had him quite trained. I sold him and regreted it before the day was up I called and begged for him back I hadn't touched the check . She wouldn't sell him, although she did sell him to somebody else maybe 8 months later. Anyway the point is to this day I do not want to hear his name, I did not want her talking about him I sold him to a "best" friend." If it was like a foreclosure sale the owner could be heart broken I doubt it but it is a possibility.

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