Alone in the world of horses

Do you ever find yourself stuck and trying to figure things out by yourself? Since the beginning, I have been at this with little support. I'm struggling to find a trainer (for me as a rider), trailers??, advice, friendship, involvement. I'm just going on a rant I guess. I have my boyfriend, who supports me, but doesn't understand the passion like say you folks do. I have people around me that have horses, but just don't feel like they are very much support. I just feel so alone in this horsey world, it's frustrating and sad. I keep finding that I hit a ton of brick walls with different things. The only way I feel like I have an outlet for advice or companionship with people that I KNOW will understand is to be on here. So thank you I suppose. And be thankful for those around you that make this life for you easier.

I'm kind of in the same boat, I'm finding it difficult to find trainers in the area where I am, both for riding lessons and my horse. I like my barn but it's not a social place at all which is what I was used to and enjoyed when I had my horses in California, there was always someone willing to lend a hand and stuff. I guess when you hit a brick wall you've got to climb over it or dig under it !! But I know it can be frustrating. The Horse Forum does help though!

Ya I know right?!? Lol like I go into the local feed store the other day and find these girls in their cute little dressage outfits picking out a halter for a horse and laughing and talking about stuff, and I have no idea what that feels like. Ya I have my best friend and stuff, but she doesn't even like horses much. Thanks for replying, im just going to have to show myself that I can do it, even alone if I have to!

Does the time of year make a difference in being able to connect with horse people in your area? Maybe in the spring things will improve. Do they have any kind of horse expo type thing in your state? If the do, you really need to plan on going. We go to ours every year and it really lights a fire under you to try new things and helps find others if your looking to connect with a trainer, a farrier, anyone really.
Here's a big (((((((HUG))))))) for you, sounds like you need one.

Thank you so much Maureen!! Actually, I haven't even got off the couch today lol, for the past week, i've struck out with looking for a trainer. It's super frustrating especially when you run into so many people that look at you funny because a green rider bought a green horse. Ya.

You know I have no idea about a horse expo.....i guess I can ask the feed store if they know anything??? That's a great idea and would be tons of fun! Ill have to start exploring things like that. And as far as the time of year goes...no....not really, i've been alone since I got thunder over a year ago. The only difference is is that there's no group trail rides, which there were tons in the summer. Thanks for the support. And again, im just starting out, I wasn't born into this world.

I just gotta say I really appreciate you guys and this community!

No problem sweetie, I do know how you feel. I think most of us sort of feel their way along sometimes. I think it has to be like raising kids (or at least good practice) working with a horse is trial and error most of the time. It can be very frustrating whether your a pro or a novice.
I get a little freaked when I think about starting my 2 this spring. One day I think they are really sweet and it will be a piece of cake, the next I think they will probably kill me

It will be ok, I do think you need to look into an expo, there lots of fun. They are usually put on by a state horse association. You might try goggling that.

Ok cool ill try that! And good luck starting yours this spring, ill have video soon hopefully if things go well when I start Thunder.

((Hugs)) I know how you feel completely.

I have no horse friends close to home. My husband does support me with the horses but he doesn't love being with the horses like I do. I have a friend around here that has horses but she never wants to ride or work with them.

It's tough, but hang in there you can do it. Besides you have a very close freind because of all this, Thunder.

You are very right Tiff thanks :). At least I know im not the only one out there in this position.

Aw, I feel sad for you. As a kid I was in a horse 4-H club and then, in high school, was on the equitation team. It was wonderful having friends with the same interest and both organizations shaped me into the horse person I am today.

However, as an adult, I'm in your boat. My husband is not into horses at all and my three girls can take it or leave it. No horsey friends either. The following little story is why I come on here...

...last year my aunt and uncle made their annual trip to MI from WI and while they were staying at my parents we went up to visit them. I was out messing with my parents' horses and my aunt says to me "Jen, haven't you outgrown horses yet?" :roll: