I have a friend who has been getting on my nerves lately, and even hurting my feelings a bit. She has an OTTB, who is nice enough but isn't THAT nice, but she thinks she's he's worth way more than he is. I however would never say anything negative about her horse or criticize him to her because that's not my place and I would feel completely over the line by doing so.
I have a little 15hh QH mare who isn't the flashiest mover, but she still moves well. I don't ever plan on doing anything high level with her, but I feel like she could do well at the lower level stuff. She's come a long way since I first got her, and I'm very proud of how she's doing. I voice this sometimes. Said friend has found multiple opportunities, however, to blatantly tell me how such and such horse is a better mover than mine. I don't think she means to be offensive, in fact, it usually starts off "Well, no offense, but...". But I just feel a little taken aback when she says such things.
I could come back with a lot of things that make my more superior to hers and others - but in different ways. But I'm not that kind of person so I say nothing. It's like we will be discussing some horse, hers or some other horse, and we can be talking about it's strong and weak points, and in the end it's like "BUT it's still better than your horse."
I feel like I may be overreacting, but I'm tired of hearing how my horse is so inferior. I feel so self conscious about our work now. I really wanted to show this year, it'll be her first, and my confidence in myself and her is down the drain, over something I know is stupid.
I don't really want to say anything to her, I feel like she'd try to go back to the same point in the end...well, she's not a bad mover 'but'...
So...overreacting here? What could I say that isn't passive aggressive but would give her the message without entailing a big discussion about it?