Am I crazy for wanting a horse while I'm in college? I'm so torn
I'm starting my junior year at university tomorrow. I live with my parents.
I got rebitten by the horse bug last year. I looked for months, and then finallly found my horse out of state. My dad has an airplane, and he flew me up there to look at her, as my christmas gift (gift=the flight. rest was up to me). I only saw her and rode her once, liked her, paid a vet up there to do a pre purchase exam, trusted her and the owner when they said she was sound. So I spent my budget, bought this horse, made arrangements to have her hauled to me, and have her here. And then I notice the scar tissue when the farrier comes out the first time.
The previous owner later admits my horse CUT THROUGH A TENDON stepping in a fence, years ago. She and the vet never told me. And to the experienced eye--or even my eye now that i know more--its impossible to miss. She's sound for trail riding. But I dont want to go ride out in the woods by myself and risk my life over a plastic bag. It's not even enjoyable.
And then the english bug bit me. Specifically, eventing . I see it, and i get goosebumps. It's all I want to do. I;ve taken a few english lessons now, and I can't go back to a western saddle, ever. It's like you're having a conversation with the horse. It's incredible. I now found a trainer who will give me lessons, and is great, but i have to have a horse to take lessons ON. Another lady who use to compete at the professional level in eventing, i can ride with. She's awesome too. I bought a saddle, and now have my own pair of tall boots.
I got a second job and worked 7 days a week all summer. Did I do this because I enjoyed it? I'm miserable working til 11:30 at night each night. But, each time I clock in, I am that much closer to being able to a afford a board bill, and a useful horse.
So I'm trying desperately to get RID of my mare. Because I cant use her for jumping. So far...not a lot fo interest. She is registered, has good bask bred lines (take a guess what breed this is). She's a bay tobiano. and Sabino. She's got nice conformation and she would make someone a good weekend trail buddy or a GREAT broodmare for pretty foals.
The trainer has been helping me look. We've been scouring craigslist, dreamhorse, horse clicks, equinenow,equine.com, CANTER USA, local feedstore boards and everythign. not much to choose from in the way of tall thoroughbreds between the ages of 4-10, with decent confo and no injuries. It's ridiculous.
We ask for a video of the horse trotting, EVERY HORSE, and conformation shots.
And then, last week, I expanded my search a little to the west coast. I found a mare I really like 500 miles from me. I requested video of her, and she's perfect. Beautiful mover, under saddle western and english, nice price tag, 5 years old, never touched a track, and great, great bloodlines. My trainer liked the video even more than I did.
The problem? I start school tomorrow. I cant drive 7hrs and go see her.I know she will sell, if she's a good horse. They always do. My dad is flying over to the west coast to take himself fishing tomorrow. He wil fly RIGHT OVER the little town where she is. He could land, very easily, take the crew car for free at their airport(I was raised at an airport, i know these things too well), and go see this mare for me in the flesh. All he has to do is feel her legs, take me some pics, and have the trainer ride her for five minutes. That's all I want. To make sure she's real. If I like what I see, I can make a deposit through paypal, and work on my transportation details with someone hauling from So Cal to the southwest from there.
From all my working, I have the money to do all this. I told my dad this this mornign, and he flipped out. He told me "No way I'd stop and do that. You need to focus on school, not have a horse, a thoroughbred will break your neck like christopher reeve, etc etc". I told him I will focus on school, just like i have for the past three years, but I'm allowed to have a hobby that's I support. Then he says "What? You gonna board this horse? Im not letting you keep it here." i told him yes, I will be boarding my next horse (we do not live in a good set up for horses--the ground is soft and on a hill, my horse ends up with wet feet and thrush all the time, AND BEST OF ALL..WE HAVE NO SHELTERS! Oh, and there's nowhere level to ride. There are no arenas unless you haul to a board facility. If I board a horse, they feed it twice a day for me and I dont have to worry about it, I can go ride each morning before class in one of their FOUR arenas and jump courses, and my trainer can give me weekly lessons AT the barn, without having to drag my horse into a trailer and jaunt across town.) It's $375 a month to board. But I will rpobably be able to negotiate a little, and they also need help (they posted an ad on craigslist looking for help mucking), so I could trade some working mucking stalls a couple nights a week for part of my bill. Dad then flipped out again about how "Im pissing money away, and not paying attentiont o my education, and how he payed good money for me to go to school." I have no social life--free time is spent studying. I will be working for days a week during the school year. I've already calculated, and based on my current salary, between the two jobs, after tax I make $970 a month DURING SCHOOL. I dont buy fancy clothes. I dont have a social life or like to be with people. i LOVE HORSES. This is the one thing I've ever found that makes me look forward to GETTING up, and feel better about myself. unline anything I can describe.
Then my mom tells me I should "just take lessons, because I dont know waht I really want. Just look waht happened with the last horse (my worthless mare)
Now I'm sitting here torn and tired. And stressed. What would you do if you wanted something so badly, and everyone told you you shouldnt have it? How do you explain this to people? Is it so wrong of me to want to hve a horse while in college?
Last edited by poultrygirl; 08-28-2011 at 03:00 PM.