Am I doing the right thing? (turning down a bratty horse)

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    05-19-2013, 12:00 PM
Am I doing the right thing? (turning down a bratty horse)

I'm not sure if this is in the right spot...

I've boarded my horse, Wildfire, at the same place for 2 years now. He loves it there and has a beautiful "girlfriend", Libby. Libby's owners literally never come out and see her. Her hooves are in horrible shape and her teeth are quite overgrown. Nobody likes her because she's really moody and can be downright nasty and dangerous to be around. The past several months my mom and I have been spending quite a bit of time with her and we are the only people she seems to like. She runs away from anyone else but runs to us. She's a kicker so you have to be really careful where you stand and you can't touch her hips or back legs. She also bites and head buts really hard. The last time she bit me I was grooming her and when I looked away she bit my shoulder. It didn't break the skin, she just grazed it. Yesterday tho my mom picked a tick off of her side and Libby jerked around and bit my mom's side really hard and would not let go. It broke the skin and my mom has a massive bruise and teeth marks.
I'm going to be moving next month and will be taking Wildfire with me once I get a fence up. I'm going to be getting him some friends and for awhile I was wanting to buy Libby. There's a couple problems with that: I'm going to be boarding horses at my new place and I would hate to have her hurt a boarder. Also, I'm going to be starting a family and she could seriously hurt a child.
It breaks my heart to think about leaving her because once we're gone, she won't have Wildfire and she won't have any people to pay attention to her.
Deep down I know it's for the best to not get her but I still think "maybe it could work..."
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    05-19-2013, 12:10 PM
You shouldn't get a horse simply out of sympathy, I think you did the right thing.

She's one of thousands of horses in the same predicament, and you can't save them all. What you would probably end up with is a horse you regretted having around- not to mention the extra bills, and potential liability. You'd find that you don't have the time to really work on her (and it's not that enjoyable) and then trying to find a place for her to be, but no one wants her- then you're stuck.

It would be one thing if you absolutely feel in love with this horse and had the resolve, will, and ability to do anything within your power to set her on the right path- but not just sympathy.

I think you are right to focus on your gelding, maybe board a few new friends- and then if you come across a horse in the future you can't live without- you should get that horse. Not this one.
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    05-19-2013, 12:24 PM
Do you ever think she is in pain of some sort?

If you have the abilities to work with her, I think that's one thing to consider taking her but if your doing it because you feel bad that's different.

P.S why hasn't a barn owner stepped in about her condition?
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    05-19-2013, 12:45 PM
Walk away. She's not your problem and could get you sued to the point of losing your farm, your livelihood and basically just cost you everything. You've been paying attention to her but you haven't fixed any of her problems. If you get more horses and board some, you'll be too busy for the intensive 1 on1 that this horse will need to fix her.
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    05-19-2013, 10:25 PM
I second Casey - why hasn't the BO done something?? If I had a barn, it'd be an actual rule in the boarding agreement that basic care (farrier, dental, vet, worming etc) MUST be done. How could they stand by and allow neglect to happen in their barn? Sounds like they don't really care, in my opinion...
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    05-19-2013, 11:00 PM
For the horse's sake, you need to tell BO that he/she must insist upon hoof trim, dental care, etc. for it! You must tell BO that if the situation's allowed to slide, you'll call humane society or something of that ilk.
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    05-20-2013, 01:03 AM
With all the dental, problems and hoof problems she most likley is very sore, and getting inpatent cos her owners wont listen to her.

She obviously needs someone who is willing to be with her 24/7, she may have cyst.

Needs social interaction with people...horses in the wild do not just become friendly..with no social interaaction she may be starting to become wild
    05-20-2013, 03:19 AM
As long as her teeth are cared for to the level that they are not rotten, nor ar they cutting into her cheeks, and he feet done enough for her to walkd around ok, she'll be fine. The idea that she NEEDS human contact is probably not so valid. Beyond the basic veteranary care, horses just really need food and a semplance of a herd and some room to move aobut. That's pretty much all. They can be ok without someone 'loving' on them regularlike
    05-20-2013, 03:35 AM
There are ponies at my barn who have turned wild because the owner never sees them. The BM makes sure they receive hoof and vet care at least, I think, not sure, that they add this to the board bill.

These ponies were next to my horse for a while, when their field needed a rest. I store my stuff in the storage area that's in their paddock as it's right next to mine. One pony started coming around from seeing me all the time, and it was hard when she went back out to her field, as she was doing better.

But you know what, if I could afford a second horse, would I really choose her? I don't think so, I just felt sorry for her. She's not neglected in terms of care, just time.

If you want another horse, get another horse that you want, not one that you just feel sorry for - would be my advise. And the BO should be doing something about the condition of the teeth, and feet. Advocate for that.
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    05-20-2013, 05:02 PM
The horses with the worst problems are typically the free horse, but you know what they say about a free horse... I would walk away ESPECIALLY if you are thinking of starting a family. No need to put the little one at risk just because you felt bad for this poor mare. If you really think it is that bad, contact the BO and really talk to the humane association. Neglect is the same as abuse IMO.
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