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post #1 of 9 Old 11-24-2012, 12:55 PM Thread Starter
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Am I overstepping my boundaries?

Where I board my horse, there's at least 8 other horses out in the field with him. One of them is a 35 year old mare who is not looking too good. She's the sweetest thing, but you can see all of her ribs and she's missing most of her teeth. Her owner is an older lady (75+) who can't come see her. She's asked another boarder to go and look after her mare. This woman is also very nice and used to go up there daily, but lately I haven't seen her. Chicosa, the horse, is separating herself from the other horses and she doesn't trot up to me the way she used to when I went to get my horse. I think her time is coming, so I've been grooming her, even taking her some extra grain because she's clearly not getting enough nutrients from the grass alone. Am I overstepping? Should I just leave her alone and let her owners deal with it? I have no idea what her owners are feedig her or if they're giving her supplements, but I feel like she should be getting way more grain and she should probably be spending more time in a warm stall. I don't know what I should do! Do I say something? Or should I just ignore her many problems and continue feeding her a little extra and grooming her?
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post #2 of 9 Old 11-24-2012, 12:58 PM
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Yes you are overstepping. Its not your horse so you shouldn't be taking her care upon yourself, especially feeding her without talking to the owners. It sounds though like the owners would be very receptive to you since they are older and understand they can't really take of her. Talk to the barn owner or the owner and let them know your concerns and ask them if you can help you :) Its great that you are so willing to help this horse out
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post #3 of 9 Old 11-24-2012, 12:59 PM
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The short answer is, yes, you are overstepping the boundaries. Your intentions are good, but that does not negate the fact that this is not your horse and you do not have express permission from the owner to be doing what you are doing.
As this is a boarding situation, you can raise your concerns to the BO and/or get in touch with the legal owner to raise those same concerns and OFFER to help. In the meantime, stop feeding someone else's horse - even well intentioned feeding can cause more harm than doing good.
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post #4 of 9 Old 11-24-2012, 01:01 PM Thread Starter
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Ok, I'll be sure to talk to the barn owner when I go up there today, thanks for the advice!
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post #5 of 9 Old 11-24-2012, 03:22 PM
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Definitely express your concern to the BO or the owner if you have a relationship with her. I think you are overstepping with the grooming and the feed though - especially the feed. Your intentions are good but she could have a medical issue that you're not aware of and could be on special or limited feed.
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post #6 of 9 Old 11-24-2012, 10:35 PM
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I do agree with the overstepping with the feeding, I don't think grooming would be a problem but I would talk to the BO or the owner because she may be on a special diet because of her age.
I board horses here, so I feed daily and I do groom all the horses other than my own, I have four of my own and only one boarded here now but used to have 3.....I know they appreciated me grooming their horses on days where they weren't able to get out....

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I'm very friendly to all the horses in the field, they usually come up to me before m own, and I normally wouldn't be giving this horse extra food except the she is so majorly underweight. I suppose that's natural, but its kind of hard to look at and with winter almost here, I don't think she will make it. I'm also unsure about the financial situation her owners are in. All the horses are strictly pasture boarded right now. My own has never even seen the inside of a stall. I will deffinitly bring up the situation, all though I don't really know what else can be done for this horse.
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post #8 of 9 Old 11-25-2012, 08:02 AM
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I do agree with the overstepping with the feeding, I don't think grooming would be a problem but I would talk to the BO or the owner because she may be on a special diet because of her age.
I board horses here, so I feed daily and I do groom all the horses other than my own, I have four of my own and only one boarded here now but used to have 3.....I know they appreciated me grooming their horses on days where they weren't able to get out....
The difference there is that you are the BO, not another boarder. Another boarder choosing to have interaction with a horse other than there own *can* create a liability issue - if the horse OR the person who has taken it upon themselves to interact with the horse gets injured in the process there is an issue, and it is entirely possible for *something* to go wrong even in just grooming a horse that could end in injury to one or both. Being a fellow boarder at a facility does not give everyone the right to willy-nilly play with any/every horse on the property.
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post #9 of 9 Old 11-25-2012, 12:04 PM
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The difference there is that you are the BO, not another boarder. Another boarder choosing to have interaction with a horse other than there own *can* create a liability issue - if the horse OR the person who has taken it upon themselves to interact with the horse gets injured in the process there is an issue, and it is entirely possible for *something* to go wrong even in just grooming a horse that could end in injury to one or both. Being a fellow boarder at a facility does not give everyone the right to willy-nilly play with any/every horse on the property.
I agree themacpack......I've been lucky and had great boarders, the one has been here since he was 6 months old and he's going to be 5 in March, I did have 3 more but they moved to barns with indoor arenas.....which is ok, I would love a indoor arena!!!

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