Am i rediculous for feeling this way over my stuff?

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    08-12-2012, 06:53 PM
Am i rediculous for feeling this way over my stuff?

My brother lives next door and has four horses. I have my own four. We "shared" one for three years until we got to be too much for each other to handle due to our different styles. He likes to rough up and rodeo on his horses and im more of a reining/performance rider. Sadly I've spend four years getting all my horse things picked out and arranged like I need it. I have brushes, blankets, extra pieces for my tack, my own saddles, bridles, horse boots, flymasks ect. Well since my brother and his family moved here a month ago he seems to believe that the "horse stuff" is a free for all buffet. Anything that isnt on my immediate saddle set is free game! I've have soo much go missing! I understand he needs some things... however I've spent my own personal money on getting all those things for MY horses and he seems to think he can come take whatever he likes and not return it because the "family" has it. I was in his "tack room" earlier and I counted at LEAST six things that were mine in there. Now im scrounging around to find pieces to my extra tack set which is always set up in case I have a guest because my brother has decided that HE wants all the extra tack parts at HIS house! I just had to buy a completely new bridle set for my gelding because my brother thought it fit his gelding better! And any time I try to ask him to not touch my stuff he tells me "Well I let you borrow my horse for two years so you owe me." Even though I fed, trained, and showed his horse for two years while he left her at our house because he didnt have a place to keep her! I am rying to get my dad to convert my extra stall into a lockable tack and feed room! Am I being rediculous and selfish feeling this way?
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    08-12-2012, 07:00 PM
It's called a lock on the tack room door, or move it to a place it can be locked. I work my butt off for everything I have, no one buys me stuff, it isn't a free for all. Ask or don't touch. But I am a very picky person when it comes to my stuff and my person space, but I do let people (that I trust) borrow stuff, if it isn't returned in the same shape or better (clean and not damaged) than forget me lending anything else.

Very easy to put a lock and latch, check out any hardware store, takes a few fasteners and 5 minutes.

I don't leave lea way just because they are family (mind you I don't have to much full family members).
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    08-12-2012, 07:02 PM
Green Broke
The stuff that you are not immediately using just store away in a plastic container, either lock it or put it else where.

I know family is meant to share, but its one thing asking if you can borrow something for a one off, and another coming in and taking what they like and not returning it. You bought it because you need it, not just for fun. I don't think you should say no borrowing but maybe say "I've organised my tack really carefully and I use most of it, I'm happy to let you borrow but please come and ask me first so I can find it and know what is missing". When they ask enquire after previously leant pieces to keep track of it all.
    08-12-2012, 07:08 PM
Green Broke
Aww, siblings - you've got to love them. I don't think you're being selfish -- even though its family, your boundaries need to be respected. I suppose a lock on the tackroom (after you get your stuff back) is out of the question?
    08-12-2012, 07:10 PM
Actually I don't have a tack room. (i know. I hate it!) All my stuff is outside in the shed which doesnt even have a door. (My mother said leather stinks so its not allowed in the house) I would do anything for a tack room so I could lock the suckers up!
    08-12-2012, 07:16 PM
Maybe see if you can get a second hand door to hang on the shed, honest I don't see how being siblings should make taking and now returning any better than any person you know coming and taking it, than again if my brother took something it would also be eight hours away.

Good luck
    08-12-2012, 07:18 PM
Green Broke
Well I guess that leaves the purchase of some lockable storage containers or trunks as your next option.
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    08-12-2012, 07:37 PM
No you are not being selfish. Good tack isn't cheap.
I would of had a super freak out by!
I get irritated if the reins aren't hung up correctly let alone "borrowing" items and not returning them :)
Maybe at least you could get a lockable tack trunk until you get a stall converted.
    08-12-2012, 07:49 PM
What would I look for in one? We have an older trunk that basically had everything stuffed in it for shows and it all got tangled and horrible... then the box got a hole in it.. then it got rained on... and it was terrible!
    08-12-2012, 07:55 PM
I am not sure, I am sure there are others who could tell you how to pick out a trunk. I used to use a trunk my dad built me when I showed steers in FFA, it is a pain unless you buy bridle bags and organizers for brushes and such, but at least it wont disappear :)

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